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    3 Life-Changing Lessons One CEO Learned Directly From Steve Jobs

    On April 11th of 1983, one year before debuting the first Macintosh computer, John Sculley became the CEO of Apple, where he would work very closely with Steve Jobs and observe him in action.

    Sculley had been the CEO of Pepsi Co. at the time and, after several meetings with the late Steve Jobs between 1982 and 1983, the Apple co-founder convinced Sculley to come on board.

    “We got to know each other very, very well, but at the end of it I said, ‘Steve, I’ve thought about it and I’m not coming to Apple,’” Sculley told CNBC’s Make It.

    “Steve paused and thought for a while, and then he was about 18 inches away from me — and in those days he was in his 20s and he had jet black hair, very dark eyes and he was right in my face — and he said, ‘You want to sell sugar water for the rest of your life, or do you want to come with me and change the world?’”

    Sculley would go on to be CEO of Apple for 10 years, and, during that time, learn several incredible lessons from Jobs while building Apple into a household name.

    Steve’s passion was to ‘put a dent in the universe.’ Those were his words. And he was willing to do whatever it took.

    – John Sculley

    1. Curiosity + ideals = change the world

    Sculley says that the single most important lesson he learned from Jobs was the power of an insatiable curiosity combined with a burning desire to change the world.

    “Steve’s passion was to ‘put a dent in the universe.’ Those were his words. And he was willing to do whatever it took. He was willing to set his personal life aside, he was willing to be incredibly demanding to people who worked with him,” Sculley says.

    Jobs accomplished an incredible amount in his lifetime, however, he was known for being quite hard to work with. Whatever it took, Jobs was going to accomplish his goal.

    “On the one hand, it led to the design principles that you see with iPhones today, you know where there are no compromises on the good finish design or on the user experience or the software. On the other hand, the work environment working with Steve was not the easiest at times because he was extremely tough to make sure that there were never any compromises,” says Sculley.

    2. An attitude of service

    Another life-changing lesson Sculley learned from Jobs was the attitude of service both Jobs and Bill Gates share and these leaders’ devotion to a noble cause — as opposed to the drab competitive landscape Sculley had seen at Pepsi.

    One night in the Mac engineering lab, just a few months into his term as CEO, Sculley was fortunate enough to sit in on a conversation between Jobs and Bill Gates.

    “Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were talking about their ‘noble cause,’” says Sculley. “I had never heard the words ‘noble cause’ in business in my entire life.”

    As I listen to them, they said, ‘We’re creating,’ — Steve and Bill — ‘an entirely new industry that never existed before.’ I’d never worked on trying to create a new industry before. I had always worked in the soft drink industry where it was Coke versus Pepsi, it was called the Cola Wars,” reminisced Sculley.

    And so as I listened to them and they said, ‘Yeah, we’re going to empower individuals with tools for the mind. It’s going to be done on something we call a personal computer, it’s going to be more about software than hardware and we’re going to change the world one person at a time.’

    And it was so different than anything I’d ever heard about a business before, coming from a highly competitive industry — someone wins someone loses — to now where two geniuses were saying they’re going to create an entirely new industry, they were going to change the world.

    “That kind of missionary capability stuck with me,” Sculley says.

    This kind of attitude of service, commitment to a vision, and a noble cause were characteristic of Jobs and a big part of why he became– and continues to be– so revered in the Silicon Valley scene.

    3. Adjusting perspective with ‘Zooming’

    According to Sculley, Jobs was a master of altering his perspective based on the situation with a process called “zooming” – either by zooming out or zooming in.

    “Steve connected those dots between calligraphy, laser printing and computers that could be cheap enough and easy enough to use for non-technical people, and so that was the vision– that was the zooming out,” Sculley says.

    By constantly adjusting his perspective so that he was able to look at things in a new light, Jobs was able to not only envision desktop publishing on the Mac, but also figure out creative solutions:

    “Steve would say that simplification is the ultimate sophistication, meaning that once you know how the dots connect, even if it cuts across industries that previously had never had a connection with one another, then you have to simplify it and make the solution so simple that even non-technical people will be able to use your tools and be able to be motivated to do amazing things with them,” says Sculley.

    This use of zooming, whether zooming out to look at things with from a higher perspective to piece together new solutions, or zooming in to identify new and better ways of making something work, was a big part of Jobs’ genius.

    Originally Written by : Matt Valentine
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    Best Motivational Songs

    Welcome to the motivational songs section where you’ll find dozens of inspiration and motivation songs that will inspire you, pump you up, and move you.

    Some of these songs are more mellow, some more upbeat, some you’ll love, and some you could probably care less for… there’s a different variety of music from the best workout songs to inspirational ones, something here for everyone. Enjoy and be motivated!

    Be sure to check out the comments section where you’ll find 100’s of more motivational and good workout songs. If you have any favorites, please share them in the comments section at the bottom so that other people can check out the songs. If you find any videos that no longer work, please contact me and let me know. Thanks.

    *Featured Songs*

    Demons [Remix]
    by Magnetic North

    I Can
    by Steven Cooper

    300 Violin Orchestra
    by Jorge Quintero


    How to Get Your Song Featured

    If you’re a song writer and have songs that would be appropriate for this page and would like to be considered for the featured section, let me know. I’m looking for songs that have a positive message with a nice melody or beat. How long it will stay featured will depend on the amount of submissions I get.

    Not all feature songs are artist submitted. If I happen to come across a song I like, I’ll feature it. These will typically be songs that are by less known artists. This is my way of supporting these folks. If I don’t feature your song, please don’t take it personally. You could always add it to the comments section down below.

    *These songs are in alphabetical order. “New” means songs that were recently added to the list. Enjoy!

    Motivational Songs List

    1. 300 (Violin Orchestra) – Jorge Quintero
    2. All I Got – MC Hush
    3. All About You – Classified
    4. Awake and Alive – Skillet
    5. Be Brave – Chloe Temtchine
    6. Beat It – Michael Jackson
    7. Believe – Josh Groban
    8. Believer – Imagine Dragons
    9. Boom – P.O.D.
    10. Born For Greatness – Jana Stanfield
    11. Born To Do – Steven Cooper
    12. Can’t Nobody Stop Me – Royce Da 5’9
    13. Can’t Take That Away – Mariah Carey
    14. Chariots of Fire– Vangelis
    15. Days – Joelistics
    16. Demons Remix – Magnetic North
    17. Don’t You Worry ‘Bout Me – Lukas Graham
    18. Dream Big – David Cook / Emily Shackelton
    19. Dreaming – Scribe
    20. Dreamers – AfterSchoolSpecial
    21. Dreams – Alysha Antonino
    22. Dreams – Mr. Wakobi
    23. Dreams of Reality – Fame or Juliet
    24. Ecstasy of Gold Remix – Ennio Morricone
    25. Eye of the Tiger – Survivor
    26. Feelin’ Fine – Classified
    27. Fight Song – Rachel Platten
    28. Fighter – Christina Aguilera
    29. Flying Home – John Murphy & Henry Jackman
    30. Frontline – Pillar
    31. Get Back Up – Toby Mac
    32. Get Ready For This – 2 Unlimited
    33. Give Me A Sign Remix – DMX / Fort Minor
    34. Gotta Be Somebody – Nickelback
    35. Hall of Fame – The Script feat will.i.am
    36. Heart of a Champion – Nelly
    37. Hope – Shaggy
    38. Hope – Twista ft Faith Evans
    39. Hopeful – Bars and Melody
    40. Hungry – Rob Baily and The Hustle Standard
    41. I Am A Champion – Carrie Underwood ft Ludacris (*New)
    42. I’m Not Afraid – Eminem
    43. I Believe – Yolanda Adams
    44. I Believe I Can Fly – R. Kelly
    45. I Can Make It Happen – Jackie Pajo
    46. I Give It All – Rise Against
    47. I Want It All – Warren G feat Mac 10
    48. I Will Survive – Gloria Gaynor
    49. If I Were Brave – Jana Stanfield
    50. If Today Were Your Last Day – Nickelback
    51. Invincible – Pmac
    52. It’s A Beautiful Life – Ace of Base
    53. It’s My Life – Bon Jovi
    54. Just Stand Up – All-Star Female Artists
    55. Keep Dreamin’ – Eddy B & Tim Gunter
    56. Keep’n It Real – Shaggy
    57. Live Like You Were Dying – Tim McGraw
    58. Live to Win – Paul Stanley
    59. Living on a Prayer – Bon Jovi
    60. Lose Yourself – Eminem
    61. Mama Said – Lukas Graham
    62. Man In The Mirror – Michael Jackson
    63. Mighty Wings – Cheap Trick
    64. Motivation Proclamation – Good Charlotte
    65. Move – Thousand Foot Krutch
    66. Naruto – Various
    67. Never Give Up – Popstars
    68. Never Give Up – Two Is One
    69. Never Give Up – Yolanda Adams
    70. Never Give Up On Your Dreams
    71. No Boundaries – Various
    72. No Giving Up – Crossfade
    73. One Day – Charice
    74. One More – Superchick
    75. One Shining Moment – Luther Vandross
    76. Reach – Gloria Estefan
    77. Ready For War – Mayweather / De La Hoya Remix
    78. Remember The Name – Fort Minor
    79. Right Here With You – Olivia Newton
    80. Right Now – Van Halen
    81. Simply the Best – Tina Turner
    82. Soar – Christina Aguilera
    83. Stand – Rascal Flatts
    84. Stand Up For the Champions – Right Said Fred
    85. Star – Bryan Adams
    86. Stronger – Britney Spears
    87. Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) – Kelly Clarkson
    88. Superman – Goldfinger
    89. The Climb – Miley Cyrus
    90. The Fighter – Gym Class Heroes
    91. The Middle – Jimmy Eat World
    92. The Moment of Truth – Survivor
    93. The Power of the Dream – Celine Dion
    94. The Show Goes On – Lupe Fiasco
    95. The Uprising – Pilot Hill
    96. The Winner – Coolio
    97. The World’s Greatest – R. Kelly
    98. This is the Moment – Moody Blues
    99. Till I Collapse – Eminem
    100. Today My Life Begins – Bruno Mars
    101. Unbreakable – Bon Jovi
    102. United States of Pop 2009 – DJ Earworm
    103. Watch Me Shine – Joanna Pacitti
    104. We All Fall Down – Bon Jovi
    105. We Gotta Go On – Lawrie Jay
    106. Welcome to the Black Parade – My Chemical Romance
    107. What A Feeling – Irene Cara
    108. What Faith Can Do – Kutless
    109. When You Believe – Mariah Carey / Whitney Houston
    110. Win – Brian McKnight
    111. You Gotta Be – Des’ree
    112. You Gotta Want It – Roberta Gold
    113. You’re the Best Around – Joe Esposito
    114. You’re Unstoppable – Paul Hoffman

    See the comments section below for hundreds of more songs.

    Barney’s Get Psyched Mix

    1. “You Give Love a Bad Name” – Bon Jovi
    2. “I Wanna Rock” – Twisted Sister
    3. “Lick It Up” – Kiss
    4. “Paradise City” – Guns N’ Roses
    5. “Dancing with Myself” – Billy Idol
    6. “Rock You Like a Hurricane” – The Scorpions
    7. “Panama” – Van Halen
    8. “Talk Dirty to Me” – Poison
    9. “Thunderstruck” – AC/DC
    10. “Dr. Feelgood” – Mötley Crüe
    11. “Round and Round” – Ratt
    12. “The Humpty Dance” – Digital Underground
    13. “Come Sail Away” – Styx
    14. “Don’t Stop Believin’” – Journey
    15. “The Transformers Theme Song” – O. Prime
    16. “High Enough” – Damn Yankees
    17. “Hip Hop Hooray” – Naughty by Nature
    18. “Change of Heart” – Tom Petty & The Heartbreakers
    19. “Run Runaway” – Slade
    20. “Tom Sawyer” – Rush

    Songs I couldn’t find a video for. If you’re able to find it, please let me know. Thanks.

    1. My Vision – Seal

    2. Why Not Me – Clydene Jackson

    “Music enhances the experience of life for it has the power to move the deepest depths of our souls.” – Kevin Ngo

    There’s no better way to motivate yourself than listening to a motivational song that pumps you up, puts a smile on your face, and shoots your confidence through the roof.

    Everyone has a handful of songs that when they listen to it, it just makes them want to take action. Some of these inspiring songs can have lyrics that have nothing to do with motivation, yet we are inspired to take action. This is because we consciously or unconsciously anchor certain feelings to certain songs.

    I’m sure you have a list songs where when you hear it, it will bring you into a certain state whether it’s excitement, sadness, peaceful, etc. The songs above are just some songs I find motivational to me. Most of these songs have inspiring messages, some have an upbeat motivational sound to it, while others are just classic songs that conjure up images of inspiration. When you find inspirational songs that pump you up, use them to propel yourself towards the accomplishment of your goals.

    Again, if there are any songs you know of that aren’t on this list, please add them in the comments section. Thanks.


    Originally Written by : Kevin Ngo
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    30 Famous Success Quotes You Should Live By


    To succeed in life, you need two things: ignorance and confidence. – Mark Twain

    I know you’re skeptical, but this list of success quotes is not like the others.

    One of the double-edged swords of being part of the millennial generation is that we have so much control over our own success. It is an amazing privilege to live at a time when we have this much career freedom. However, having so much choice can also be paralyzing. Some of us don’t know what we want professionally, or we do and we’re too scared to make the wrong choice, which explains why so many of us end up back in our parent’s basements after we graduate from college. That and the crippling school debt, of course.

    Some of us don’t know what we want professionally, or we do and we’re too scared to make the wrong choice – which explains why so many of us end up back in our parent’s basements after we graduate from college. That and the crippling school debt, of course.

    Although this journey may not be an easy one, it takes strength and persistence to not give up when we face adversity. Success is never easily won, nor does it arrive when we think it should. But it always gets there at some point.

    Use these 30 quotes about success to inspire you on your personal journey and let us know how they have motivated you to reach your goals.

    30 Famous Quotes About Success You Should Live By

    1. The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you will make one. – Elbert Hubbard

    2. Here is the test to find whether your mission on Earth is finished: if you’re alive, it isn’t. – Richard Bach

    3. I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. – Florence Nightingale

    1. Chase your passion, not your pension. – Denis Waitley


    1. Time you enjoy wasting was not wasted.  – John Lennon

    2. Stay hungry. Stay foolish. – Steve Jobs

    3. Love the life you live. Live the life you love. – Bob Marley

    1. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. – Helen Keller
    1. The talent of success is nothing more than doing what you can do, well. – Henry W. Longfellow

    2. It is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate. – George Burn

    3. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. That is the lesson, and that lesson alone will save you a lot of grief. – Oprah Winfrey

    1. Keep your focus on what YOU want to do – not what anyone else wants or is doing. You lose time watching others succeed. – Kevin Smith

    2. A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life. – Charles Darwin

    3. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

    4. All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. – Henry Ellis

    5. Any idiot can face a crisis – it’s day to day living that wears you out. – Anton Chekhov

    6. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. – William James

    7. But now I have come to believe that the whole world is an enigma, a harmless enigma that is made terrible by our own mad attempt to interpret it as though it had an underlying truth. – Umberto Eco

    8. Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. – Buddha

    9. Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first. – Mark Twain

    10. Every man dies. Not every man really lives. – William Wallace

    11. Everything has been figured out, except how to live. – Jean-Paul Sartre

    12. I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think, all the walks I want to take, all the books I want to read, and all the friends I want to see. – John Burroughs

    24. Fortunately analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts. Life itself still remains a very effective therapist. – Karen Horney

    1. God writes a lot of comedy… the trouble is, he’s stuck with so many bad actors who don’t know how to play funny. – Garrison Keillor

    2. He who has a why to live can bear almost any how. – Friedrich Nietzsche

    27. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. – Wayne Gretzky

    1. I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day. – E. B. White

    2. I have a simple philosophy: Fill what’s empty. Empty what’s full. Scratch where it itches. – Alice Roosevelt Longworth

    3. I love life because what more is there. – Anthony Hopkins

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    Success is not going to come to you without you putting in the work every single day, you have to separate yourself from the way the average people are living, average people engage in average activities that result in them leading average lives. Success is reserved for those who put in the time and effort every single day, it is disciplined consistency that takes you from where you are, to where you want to be.

    Whatever you want in life you can have it, it is all dependent on you, you are the one who is stopping you from achieving more in life, the keys to success are with you, start to go to work on yourself and push your boundaries to live a life of greatness. Don’t act like everyone else, observe how the masses live and do the opposite.

    You can’t become great by acting like the average people. Start to think thoughts of greatness, you must raise your level of thinking to a new level, the mindset that got you to where you are will not take you to the heights of greatness, it needs to be upgraded to a higher level. You must be ambitious and dream big dreams, whatever the mind can conceive and believe you can achieve, there are no limits out here.

    Put in the work now while others are squandering their days away engaging in meaningless activities, the results will show later, hard work does pay off for those who engage in action consistently.

    The life of your dreams is possible, if others have become successful so can you, success is a journey of growth. You may look at the people who are successful and think how did they get there, they got to where they are by developing themselves, as Tony Robbins said “People are rewarded in public for what they practice for years in private”.

    Success on the outside is a direct reflection of what is on the inside, many people have this notion that wealth is what makes you successful, that is wrong, true success is not what you get, but who you become. You must become a person of success. Take a look at your habits, do they reflect your dedication towards your goals, how about your investment in self-education, do you spend time every single day learning about success, or are you busy watching TV, you must prioritise self-education over entertainment. Your daily actions reflect how serious you really are about success. There is a clear difference between successful people and unsuccessful people, which group are you in, do your habits represent success or failure.

    You must start to do unknown things in order to get to unknown places. Success can be attained by everyone, but people are too busy following the masses into mediocrity, who said average is normal, greatness is normal, people are born great, but become conditioned into this average individual who is afraid to live, life makes people timid, it conditions people into becoming an employee not an entrepreneur.

    Dedication, obsession, consistency, discipline, hunger, ambition, persistence, vision, belief, courage, faith, and optimism are some of the traits needed to start living life on a new level. Start to believe in yourself and know that you can achieve anything, see yourself victorious, see yourself living the life of your dreams and know that it is you who will take you where you want to go.



    Originally Written by : Asad Meah
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    7 Motivational Graduation Speeches That Will Inspire You

    Feeling down? Confused? Not sure what to do with your life? These commencement speeches may have the answers you’re looking for.

    to bounce back in life.

    Here are 7 motivational speeches to inspire you and change your life:

    1. David Foster Wallace, 2005 Kenyon Graduation Speech24

    “There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says “Morning, boys. How’s the water?” And the two young fish5 swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes “What the hell is water?”

    In this commencement address, Wallace reminds us that we often forget, or take for granted, the most obvious things around us. He acknowledges it’s difficult to stay aware of what’s happening in the world, especially when you’re too busy dealing with the monologue inside your head.

    That’s what a college education is about, according to him. It’s learning how to think, exercising some degree of control over your thoughts so you can choose what to pay attention to.

    Our thoughts affect our realities, and the ability to choose how you “construct meaning from experience” will determine the lenses from which you see the world and how you react in return.

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    2. Ellen DeGeneres, 2009 Tulane University

    “Never follow anyone else’s path, unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost and you see a path and by all means you should follow that. Don’t give advice, it will come back and bite you in the ass. Don’t take anyone’s advice. So my advice to you is to be true to yourself and everything will be fine.”

    This is one of the funniest graduation speeches ever! All humor aside, this speech shows why it’s better to be true to yourself, instead of trying desperately to be a second-rate version of someone else.

    For years, Ellen thought being bisexual might prevent her from being a successful stand-up comedian but it’s just not the case. Ellen proved that you can be successful, whoever you are, if you worked hard and learn from your past experiences— even one as sad as the death of a loved one.

    3. Charlie Munger, 2007 University of California Law School

    *Skip to 4:08 for the actual speech

    “You’re not going to get very far in life based on what you already know. You’re going to advance in life by what you’re going to learn after you leave here.”12

    Education doesn’t stop after you graduate from college. It doesn’t stop after you finish your MBA or PhD either. Munger says, “Wisdom acquisition is a moral duty. It’s not just something you do to advance in life.”

    It’s a moral duty because it’s only through continuous learning that we can add to the vast knowledge of man kind. If we stopped learning, progress in all industries—computers, finance, engineering, biology, stops as well.

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    4. Michelle Obama, 2013 Eastern Kentucky University

    “If you’re a Democrat, spend some time talking to a Republican. And if you’re a Republican, have a chat with a Democrat. Maybe you’ll find some common ground, maybe you won’t. But if you honestly engage with an open mind and an open heart, I guarantee you’ll learn something. And goodness knows we need more of that, because we know what happens when we only talk to people who think like we do — we just get more stuck in our ways, more divided, and it gets harder to come together for a common purpose. ”

    As far as inspirational speeches go, Michelle Obama’s speech is very actionable. Her advice is simple (not easy), talk to each other with an open mind.

    Different religion, race, political stand, it doesn’t matter. We can all learn from one another.

    5. Jim Carrey, 2014 Maharashi University of Management

    This is one of my favorite motivational speeches because Jim Carrey is such a good example of his message.

    “So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him, and so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an account.”
    Carrey’s father lost his accounting job when he was 12, and it was then he realized that failure is inevitable, whether you’re doing what you want or not. If that’s the case, you might as well take a stab at doing something you love.

    6. J.K Rowling, 2008 Harvard Commencement Address5

    “I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realized, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea.”

    For writers and creatives everywhere, this is probably one of the most inspirational videos there is.

    Rowling was suffering from depression when he wrote the Harry Potter books. But through grit and patience with herself, she was able to complete the first Harry Potter Manuscript and in doing so escape the clutches of depression.

    Thanks to her, the world has Harry Potter.

    7.Bono, 2004 University of Pennsylvania

    In case you don’t know him, Bono is the lead singer of the famous band U2.

    Of course, being the rock star that he is, he leads his speech by saying, “My name is Bono, and I am a rock star”

    Being a rock star, I thought Bono would talk about the perils of fame, the road to stardom or something to that effect. But instead, he talked about big ideas and changing the world.

    In his speech, he urges graduates to carefully consider their big idea. “What are you willing to spend your moral capital, your intellectual capital, your cash, (and) your sweat equity in pursuing outside of the walls of the University of Pennsylvania? The world is more malleable than you think and it’s waiting for you to hammer it into shape,” he said.

    What about you? Do you remember the speaker on your graduation day? What pearls of wisdom did he or she share?

    Originally Written by : Charley Mendoza
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    6 Signs You’re Actually Getting Way Too Much Sleep

    For many, it’s a constant struggle to get enough sleep in a day, whether because work demands it of you or because you demand it of yourself.

    Over the last decade, it’s now become well-known that sleep plays an important part in our overall health, so you need to make sure you’re getting enough of it. How much? Doctors suggest seven to nine hours of sleep a day depending on the person.

    However, apparently, getting too much sleep is just as bad as not getting enough.

    For all those who love binge-sleeping over the weekend to make up for the weekday, going to bed at 10 and then waking up at noon, we apologize– this is going to be nothing but bad news.

    Even were sleep is concerned, too much is a bad thing.

    – Homer

    Are you getting too much sleep? It’s time to find out…

    1. Brain fog

    According to WebMD, “too much sleep can make your brain feel foggy.”

    If you wake up feeling like a zombie who can’t put together a coherent sentence for an extended period of time, watch out. Clearly, a little of this is normal, but if you notice this extend into your day, that’s one sign that you might just be getting too much sleep.

    2. Headaches

    Headaches are another sign of too much sleep, according to Elizabeth McDevitt of the Sleep and Cognition Lab at UC Riverside. They could very well be caused from sleeping in too long:

    The mechanism behind this isn’t understood that well, and one hypothesis is that fluctuations in neurotransmitters during sleep may be a trigger for headaches,

    Another possibility is that when people sleep later in the morning, they may be sleeping past their normal breakfast or coffee time, and the headaches may be related to caffeine withdrawals, low blood sugar, or dehydration.

    3. Body pain

    Another common sign of too much sleep– and a sign I’ve experienced before after what I thoughtwould be a nice morning of make-up sleep– is body pain.

    If you’ve ever woken up feeling pain all over your body, pain you don’t typically feel after waking up from an average night’s rest, that’s a good sign you may have gotten too much sleep.

    4. Fatigue

    Have you ever slept in, expecting to feel nice and rested the next day– yes, fiiiiiiinally– only to feel more tired than when you laid down to rest the previous night?

    What the heck, right? Well, it turns out there’s something to this.

    Similarly to the headaches caused by oversleeping, just because we wake up later in the day doesn’t mean our body decides to wait for us. If you sleep in to, say, noon, there’s a good chance your body’s cells start their energy cycle at your normal wake time several hours earlier.

    Because of this, you wake up feeling far more tired than you expected, your body having been expending energy for hours.

    5. Memory loss

    According to a Harvard Health study, getting too much sleep can also negatively affect your memory.

    Researcher Elizabeth Devore and her team followed a group of women first in 1986 and then later in 2000. Throughout their research, they consistently found that those study participants who had excess sleep performed worse on several brain tests than those who received sufficient sleep and also showed signs of memory loss.

    6. Weight gain

    While a difficult factor to prove, weight gain is nonetheless a potential cause of oversleeping.

    We still don’t exactly know why that’s the case, but several studies have proven that a link between the two does exist.

    For example, one University of Glasgow study found that “in people with high genetic risk for obesity, both short sleep durations (less than 7 hours per night) and long sleep durations (more than 9 hours per night) further increased risk of carrying excess weight, compared with those who slept for normal durations (between 7 and 9 hours every night).”

    Originally Written by : Matt Valentine
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    Age: 65
    Born: October 7, 1952
    Country of Origin: Russia
    Source of Wealth: Politician/President of Russia
    Last Updated: 2018


    Vladimir Putin is the current president of Russia, and is on his fourth term in the position. Putin has gained recent national attention due to his controversial relationship with President Trump, and the human rights violations against the LGBT community in Russia.

    Putin’s political career began early in the 1990’s, and his popularity has continued to grow.

    As of 2018, Vladimir Putin’s net worth is estimated to be $200 Billion.


    Early Life

    Vladimir Vladimirovich Putin was born on the 7th October, 1952 in Leningrad, Russia, and is the youngest of three in the family. His two brothers died before he was born, one in infancy, and the other of diphtheria. His mother was a factory worker, and his father was injured in the war.

    Putin was interested in the Soviet cinema and wanted to portray the intelligence officers, that were often in those movies. He took up sambo and judo, and became a black belt in Judo. Vladimir also studied German in high school, and is now able to speak it fluently.

    After high school Putin studied Law at the Leningrad State University, from which he graduated in 1975. Following law school Putin joined the KGB and worked in counter-intelligence, and then served undercover in Germany until 1990. He resigned from the KGB with the rank of Lieutenant Colonel in 1991.



    Putin’s political career began in 1990 when he was appointed as an advisor of international affairs to the Mayor of Leningrad. Putin moved through various roles in the government, including a stint as deputy chief of Presidential Staff.

    In 1999 Putin was appointed acting Prime Minister of the Government of the Russian Federation, and Putin agreed to run for the presidency. He was not officially affiliated with any political party, but pledged support to the Union party.

    A few months after becoming acting Prime Minister, he became acting President of the Russian Federation. His first presidential term ran until 2004, and his second term ran until 2008. During his second term the National Priority Projects began as an effort to improve Russia’s health care, education, housing, and agriculture.

    2008 saw a second premiership for Putin, as he was not allowed to run for a third term due to the Constitution. However, in 2012 he was appointed President for a third term and is currently in his fourth term.

    Russia has seen several changes in Putin’s time in control; such as a reorganization of the electoral districts, the annexation of Crimea, and a military reform. There have been several concerns from the international community over his gay propaganda law, and the punishment of journalists who challenge his view.


    Here are some of the best highlights of Vladimir Putin’s career:

    • Yerevan State University: Honorary doctorate (2001)
    • Athens University: Honorary doctorate (2001)
    • Time magazine: Person of the Year (2007)
    • China international Peace Research Center Confucious Peace Prize (2011)
    • University of Belgrade; Honorary doctorate (2011)
    • Pope Francis: Angel of Peace Medal (2015)


    “Terrorism has no nationality or religion.” – Vladimir Putin

    “The centuries-old history and culture of India, majestic architectural monuments and museums of Delhi, Agra and Mumbai have a unique attractive force.” – Vladimir Putin

    “Everything will probably never be OK. But we have to try for it.” – Vladimir Putin

    “The ability to compromise is not a diplomatic politeness toward a partner but rather taking into account and respecting your partner’s legitimate interests.” – Vladimir Putin

    “We don’t need a weakened government but a strong government that would take responsibility for the rights of the individual and care for the society as a whole.” – Vladimir Putin

    “We shall fight against them, throw them in prisons and destroy them.” – Vladimir Putin

    “The path towards a free society has not been simple. There are tragic and glorious pages in our history.” – Vladimir Putin



    Vladimir Putin has been serving his country in multiple ways since his graduation from law school, beginning with service in the KGB. He is currently on his fourth term as President and has implemented several significant changes to the country.

    Vladimir Putin’s net worth is over $200 billion, and is reflective of his lengthy political career.

    Originally Written by : Dan Western
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    Top 23 Best Robert Downey Jr. Quotes

    An A-list American actor Robert Downey Jr. is witty, confident and well spoken. Over his lengthy Hollywood career, he has become one of the most highly respected actors. During his time in the movie industry, he has faced and overcome drug addiction and multiple legal conflicts. Despite that, he managed to re-launch his acting career and landed the leading roles in Iron Man (2008) and Sherlock Holmes (2009). These Robert Downey Jr. quotes will definitely encourage you to strive for your own wild success.

    Born April 4, 1965 in Manhattan, New York to filmmaker Robert Downey Sr. and actress Elsie Downey, he made his first appearance at the age of five in his father’s 1970 movie, Pound.

    Even though he was born into the industry, Robert Downey Jr. has reinvented himself, again and again, to stay fresh, vibrant and elegant for nearly four decades. Many consider Robert Downey Jr. one of the most prominent and intellectually sophisticated men in Hollywood. He is highly articulate on subjects such as discipline, confidence, and the power of the human mind. Robert Downey Jr. has a unique take on psychology, with an optimistic view of human beings as powerful and with limitless potential.

    For three consecutive years (2012 – 2015), he topped the Forbes list of Hollywood’s highest-paid actors, with an estimated $80 million in earnings from June 2014 to June 2015. Furthermore, as of 2018, his estimated net worth is about $260 million. The movies Robert Downey Jr. played in have grossed a total of $9.6 billion, making him the fifth highest box-office grossing star of all time.

    His life was full of unique challenges and opportunities –  he was. born into a family of filmmakers, but introduced to drugs by his addict father at a young age. Robert Downey Jr. developed an incredibly strong, durable and charismatic personality as a consequence of the many ups and downs of his life. Even though things were not easy for him, he managed to become one of the most successful actors of all time. To that end, Downey  Jr. attributes much of his success to staying humble, being optimistic, and always giving back to others.

    To get a grasp of his insane work ethic and amazing charisma, check out our awesome list of Robert Downey Jr. Quotes:

    Top 23 Best Robert Downey Jr. Quotes

    1. “I’ve always felt that if you’re not on your side, why should anyone else be. So I always encourage people to be confident, and sometime even a little falsely so, just so you can give yourself an opportunity.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    2. “Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the f*&k you were gonna do anyway.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    3. “Do I want to be a hero to my son?  No.  I would like to be a very real human being.  That’s hard enough.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    4. “I think it’s miraculous that anybody survives themselves.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    5. “Discipline for me is about respect. It’s not even about self-respect; it’s about respect for life and all it offers.” – Robert Downey Jr. Quotes
    6. “I know very little about acting. I’m just an incredibly gifted faker.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    7. “I just think it’s good to be confident.  If I’m not on my team why should anybody else be?” – Robert Downey Jr.
    8. “People rise out of the ashes because, at some point, they are invested with a belief in the possibility of triumph over seemingly impossible odds.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    9. “I’ve always felt like an outsider in this industry. Because I’m so insane I guess.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    10. “The higher the stakes, the happier I am, the better I will be.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    11. “Job one is to get out of that cave.  A lot of people do get out but don’t change.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    12. “There’s somewhere you’re supposed to go, and if you get quiet enough, you’ll make it.”– Robert Downey Jr.
    13. “To me, friendship means loving tolerance.” – Robert Downey Jr. Quotes
    14. “Nothing is a break for me. Not even the breaks are breaks.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    15. “I have a sense of destiny that you are led to the things you are supposed to do.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    16. “I’ve noticed that worrying is like praying for what you don’t want to happen.”– Robert Downey Jr.
    17. “The lesson is that you can still make mistakes and be forgiven.” – Robert Downey Jr.
      See also: Top 20 Greatest Jackie Chan Quotes
    18. “People rise out of the ashes, because, at some point, they are invested with a belief in the possibility of triumph over seemingly impossible odds.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    19. “Remember that just because you hit bottom doesn’t mean you have to stay there” – Robert Downey Jr. Quotes
    20. “Mediocrity is my biggest fear. I’m not afraid of total failure because I don’t think that will happen. I’m not afraid of success because that beats the hell out of failure. It’s being in the middle that scares me.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    21. “I don’t need an Iron Man suit. I’m already a weapon of mass seduction.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    22. “Whenever I watch someone doing something, even if it doesn’t turn out so great, I at least admire their intentions and stuff.” – Robert Downey Jr.
    23. “I think that we all do heroic things, but hero is not a noun, it’s a verb.” – Robert Downey Jr.

    Originally Written by : Georgi Lazarov
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    The Truth About Closure and Letting Someone Go

    Breakups are messy and brutal.

    One day you feel like you’re in paradise. The next it feels like your soul has been ripped from your body.

    I’m not talking about the on-again off-again, I’m-slightly-annoyed-today temporary breakups. I’m talking about the real, heart-wrenching breakups.

    The ones when you know it’s really over.

    The ones when you look in your partner’s eyes and you just know what they’re going to say. The ones when you have to move your stuff out. The ones when your ex stops replying to your desperate messages.

    In those moments, we’re taken from from pure bliss to absolute misery.

    And your natural instinct is to do whatever possible to prevent this trainwreck…and that’s where the idea of getting “closure” comes in.

    So the looming question is…

    Is “closure” really worth it?

    Why closure doesn’t work like you think

    After the breakup, all you want is one more chance to talk to your ex…really talk to them.

    You think that if you can somehow reach them, you can fix things. Or, help yourself heal.

    I’m sorry to tell you, but…

    They broke up with you because they don’t feel the same connection anymore.

    Maybe they don’t have the same attraction to you that they used to. Maybe they realize you don’t have the values they want in a partner. Maybe they want to explore their single life or they’re interested in someone else.

    Regardless, they’ve accepted you’re not the person they want to be with.

    This was not an overnight decision — especially if you’ve been seeing each other for a long time. Unless you did something horrible which directly caused the breakup, they’ve been considering this for a while.

    And in my experience, your persistence for “closure” will only make things worse. It’s already too late to change their mind, and one single conversation certainly won’t change the way they feel.

    You aren’t going to say something that suddenly makes them realize they’re still madly in love with you. You aren’t going to show them some quality that makes them feel overwhelming desire for you again.

    Often, you’re just going to get crushed when you see they aren’t trying to make things work like you are and instead, they’re moving on.

    And that’s the ugly side of closure — you’re desperate to make your ex change their mind at any cost. But those attempts come from a misguided, often unhealthy, place and only end up backfiring.

    How NOT to get closure

    Most people seek “closure” to fill a selfish void. In my opinion, you shouldn’t be seeking this conversation for any of the following reasons:

    1. Guilting them back into a relationship.

    Letting go of someone special is tough. You might love your ex and would do anything to get them back.

    So when they break it off and continue to tell you it’s over, you refuse to give up. You make grand promises saying that you’ll change.

    You claim, “Things will be different this time.” You tell them you’ll be devastated and unable to function without them. You cry and beg for them to come back. You tell them you’ll do whatever it takes.

    What does that say about you, though?

    This is someone who openly communicated they don’t want to be with you.

    You’d rather guilt them into a relationship instead of finding someone else who’s excited to be with you? Despite how they feel or how unhappy they were, you’re saying you’d rather be with them than alone?

    This only shows that you’re desperate and have no self-respect.

    They’re not going to suddenly be more attracted to you for groveling or manipulating them.

    Rarely, I’ve seen this work but it NEVER lasts. Once that pity or guilt wears off, they’re still left with the same dissatisfaction in the relationship. Then they will end things again and are more likely to resent you for your actions.

    2. Making them feel like shit.

    You feel hurt and rejected. You’re hurting so much that you want to make them to feel how they made you feel.

    And you figure that since things are over, what have you got to lose?

    Maybe you think insulting or berating your ex has its merits. Maybe you want them to know everything that’s wrong and unattractive about them. At least YOU will get the last word.

    But that’s the bullshit you tell yourself to band-aid fix your ego. You’re subconsciously trying to protect yourself from feeling like a loser.

    Your attacks may sting in the moment, but your ex will soon forget about them. You’ll soon see how little time they spend thinking about you, while you’re wasting all your time and energy on them.

    So who’s really losing in this scenario?

    If you’ve got so many complaints about them, you should have spoken up earlier. You should’ve tried to work through them during the course of the relationship.

    If you bottled up your feelings and didn’t have your needs met, that’s a failure on yourpart.

    3. Trying to propose a “friendship”.

    You tell yourself they just need some breathing room. You think if you take the romantic pressure off of them and just hang out, they’ll realize everything they’re missing.

    So you convince them to remain friends. Your ex entertains that idea because, again, even though they don’t want an intimate relationship with you, they still care for you as a person.

    Ask yourself…do you really want to be just platonic friends?

    This person just broke up with you. It’s almost guaranteed that you still have romantic feelings for them.

    You’re likely making a thinly veiled attempt to maintain some sort of a connection in hopes they will take you back. That’s dishonest and the exact opposite of being a real friend.

    You’re only setting yourself up for failure.

    You will get frustrated when your ex only continues to see you as a friend. You will freak the fuck out when they start pursuing or hooking up with other people. You will often take those feelings out on them when they don’t owe you anything.

    When your ex sees you aren’t looking for a real friendship, they will pull away from you the moment they get involved with someone else.

    Why put yourself through all that pain? Why lie to someone you care about and lead them on with false expectations?

    If you genuinely want a friendship with your ex, you shouldn’t be using a closure talk as a means to do so. You should give the both of you time to process. And if there’s a chance at a real friendship, it’ll still be there after a few months.

    Seeking these types of closure is a losing battle. They don’t work because they show that you still believe you can convince the other person to want you back. You can’t.

    More often than not, you’ll only push them further away. You’ll keep deluding yourself into wasting time for the both of you. You will leave the wounds open and cause a lot of heartache for everyone.

    So when should you get closure?

    I think there are few instances when pursuing closure IS worth it.

    Like I said, closure can’t be about your need to escape loneliness or pain, manipulate your ex, or seek revenge.

    Closure has to be about YOUR personal growth and to help both of you move on.

    That can only come when you accept the relationship is over.

    I see value in getting closure when:

    1. You sincerely apologize for your behavior.

    Maybe you feel like you really screwed things up. You were emotionally unavailable the past few months. You were controlling and temperamental due to jealous insecurity. You prioritized your work or your friends.

    Or maybe you did something truly terrible which led directly to the breakup — like cheating on them.

    It can be healthy to apologize and admit your mistakes. It won’t necessarily fix the damage but you can at least restate that you know you carried some blame. Or that you accept your differences and aren’t holding a grudge.

    This can make it easier for them to process things, forgive themselves if need be, and move on. Again, though, helping them heal has to be your only motive with this.

    The one caveat I’ll add is to reflect and make sure you genuinely have something to apologize for.

    Sometimes when someone breaks up with us, we automatically blame ourselves. That isn’t always true. People sometimes leave others out of selfishness and malice.

    You could’ve done everything right in the relationship and still could have ended with the same outcome.

    2. You want to figure out how you can improve as a person and future partner.

    Throughout this process, maybe you’re recognizing that you have room to grow. You want to avoid the same mistakes you made and become a stronger future partner.

    It’s not always easy to see your own blind spots, so getting that outside perspective can be crucial to your development.

    But, this can only work under specific circumstances.

    – You have to go into it willing to be vulnerable and open to criticism. If you can’t handle their feedback and just start getting defensive, it’s pointless.

    – Your ex has to be willing to have that discussion with you. I would ask them if they’re open to helping you move forward and grow. Assure them that’s all you want out of this. Accept it gracefully if they’re not interested or ready.

    – Your ex should still have respect for you. That ensures they provide real, meaningful advice to support you. You don’t want them to have a hidden agenda to make you feel worse and make themselves feel better.

    And even despite all that, you still have to remain open-minded, yet skeptical.

    The advice you receive may be coming from a place of pain and therefore a skewed perspective. It’s also only one viewpoint and what they say isn’t absolute. Try to think critically and take to heart what’s really valuable.

    These are the discussions you should have post-breakup, if possible. The primary focus should be to help both of you come out better.

    Coincidentally, that’s your best shot of you two ever getting back together. Ending on good terms showcases your maturity. You’ll become stronger and continue to build a more fulfilling life for yourself.

    Then if your ex recognizes your value in the future or realizes they made a mistake, you can consider giving things a try again.

    How we get real, long-term closure

    There are few times when I feel having a closure talk is worth it.

    Even then, recognize that a single conversation isn’t going to resolve everything. It’s just ONE piece in the healing process.

    Giving yourself time to grieve and reflect is closure. Spending time with good people is closure. Taking care of yourself is closure. Looking ahead and being open to new connections is closure.

    Unless your ex was abusive, disrespectful, or truly fucked you over — letting them go and working towards being happy for them is closure.

    That’s how you move on and move forward.

    Originally Written by : Nick Notas
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    10 Advantages of living in a big city

    Are you thinking about living in a big city?

    I was living in a small town, thinking all the time about moving back to New York City. Family and friends kept telling me I would be insane to do that. One day, my psychiatrist said, “where we prefer to live is not a psychological problem; it’s merely a preference.”

    Here are some advantages that I could share about living in a big city.

    Advantages of Living in a Big City

    1.) Mass Transit

    Sold my car! If I need one for a weekend, I can rent it just three blocks from my apartment. It’s easy to get around when living in a big city. There are subways, buses, taxis, Uber, the Long Island Railroad, and the Staten Island Ferry.

    Tourists, as well as residents, also have the luxury of using CitiBikes. They are easy to find, and you can rent one that is parked near the Hudson River. Cycle across town to the East River, park it and leave it there. You can rent another one anywhere you need it.

    When you’re feeling adventurous, you don’t even need a passport to travel. Brighton Beach in Brooklyn is known as “Little Odessa”, which is like your little Russia right in New York city!

    2.) Diversity

    56 million people from all over the world visited here in 2014. You can go an entire day without hearing a word of English – unless you want to. The largest Chinese population in the world (outside of Asia) is in New York City. And one out of every 38 people in the United States lives here!

    3.) Visitors

    NYC is a great place to visit – even briefly!

    Recently, two friends from Albuquerque had a layover in the city on their way to Barbados. We went to the roof of my building to enjoy the view. They photographed the entire city from every possible angle and got their bearings before they hit the streets.

    A couple of months before that, a friend and freelance writer visited from Santa Fe. He arrived with a major sinus infection. Had to cancel all of his plans. He was well taken care of at the corner Urgent Care Center and left loving the city.

    Hawk and a Hacksaw, two musician friends, had a layover on their way to Germany to play with the Berlin Philharmonic. They liked it so much they stopped again on their way home!

    4.) Kindness of Strangers

    I tripped on a little rubber mat that someone had washed and left on the sidewalk in front of a day spa near 86th Street and Columbus Avenue. Landed flat on my face. Two young girls rushed over to help me. When they were absolutely sure I wasn’t badly hurt, off they went.

    5.) Medical Services

    When I got home after the little accident I mentioned above, I looked in the mirror and saw that my front tooth was badly chipped. I called a friend. He called his dentist. I got an emergency appointment. It was rush hour. Had to make a mad dash to 40th Street on the east side.

    I walked half a block to the entrance of the subway, changed to the shuttle at Times Square, got off at Grand Central, walked a couple of blocks, and was soon sitting in the dental office in less than 15 minutes.

    As a bonus – for those of us who need it – there’s a Twelve-Step Meetingsomewhere in the city 24-7; and always within walking distance of wherever you live.

    6.) The Sights

    A very short list of the best sights to see when living in a big city like NYC:

    • Central Park (larger than the municipality of Monaco!)
    • Statue of Liberty
    • Ellis Island
    • The High Line
    • Atlantic Ocean Coastline (which is longer than the Miami, Boston, Los Angeles, and San Francisco coastlines combined).

    Walking here is like walking nowhere else. Wander through Central Park at 85th Street, from west to east or vice versa. On the east side, you’ll end up at The Metropolitan Museum on Fifth Avenue. If you walk downtown a bit, you’re in the heart of the greatest shopping area on planet Earth.

    On the west side you’ll find yourself at Central Park West. Then it’s a short walk downtown to Lincoln Center, home of the Metropolitan Opera, several theatres, The New York BalletThe Philharmonic, film festivals, outdoor entertainment, and even a farmer’s market.

    Continue walking and in a few minutes, you’re in the theatre district. You can also hail a taxi if you get tired from all that exercise!

    7.) Baby and Kid-Friendly (pet-friendly, too!)

    My granddaughter and two-and-a-half year old great-granddaughter live on Long Island. They visit whenever they can: a weekend here, a weekend there. We rarely leave the Upper West Side (the neighborhood) because all the restaurants and shops are family-oriented and child-friendly.

    If you think you can’t have a dog because you live in a city or travel too much: you can! Foster one, walk somebody else’s, or just admire the city dogs that – even though they’re rescues, for the most part – prance on their leashes like they’re competing in the Westminster Dog Show.

    8.) Museums and Galleries 

    The Metropolitan Museum bought the old Whitney because the new Whitney Museum opened this past autumn down in the meatpacking district.

    The very short list of local museums you should visit at least once:

    • Museum of Modern Art (MOMA);
    • Solomon R. Guggenheim;
    • Rubin Museum of Asian Art;
    • Museum of Natural History;
    • Historical Society;
    • Audubon Society;
    • Cooper-Hewitt;
    • Neue Galerie;
    • Cloisters;
    • American Folk Art Museum;
    • Pierpont Morgan Museum

    9.) Food

    Living in a big city makes every kind of food you’ve ever wanted or thought about available to you.

    Each restaurant is rated by the Board of Health. If it has an “A” rating, you will see the sign in the window easily  (“B” rating signs might be a little bit harder to spot). But you can rest assured that if it’s “A” rated, the restaurant is worth trying. The city is very strict – which is a great thing for all of us.

    One of my favorite restaurants is on the second floor of a produce market, the Fairway on Broadway in the ’70s on the west side. They serve delicious meals at reasonable prices.

    Believe it or not, there are still ways to eat inexpensively in NYC. There are food carts – good ones. Pizza parlors – great ones. You can buy an incredible sandwich at any corner deli and sit in Central Park or Riverside Park and enjoy a picnic.

    Plus, every establishment delivers: restaurants, grocery stores, pharmacies, even pet shops! Even Insomniac Cookies delivers into the wee hours of the morning.

    10.) Showbiz

    Theatre, theatre and more theatre:  uptown, downtown, off-Broadway, Broadway. “Hamilton” is the hot ticket right now. That cast recently played the White House.

    Last week, I saw Sam Shepard’s,“Buried Child” starring Ed Harris and Amy Madigan at a theatre on 42nd Street (for $25). I had seen it when it first opened many years ago. Thanks to my decision, I was able to see it again – this time, with a brand new perspective!

    Living in a big city is an education in itself. I’m learning about life and how to live on my own after many years. Whatever mood I’m in, if I take a walk and people-watch, I’m happy again. I feel less alone in NYC than anywhere else in the world.

    Originally Written by : Sharon van Ivan
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    5 Counterintuitive Ways to Make the Most Out of Your Time

    Do you think you’ll accomplish everything you want to before you die? Do you sometimes worry you won’t reach your goals? Do you have a plan to get what you want? If you’re like most people, you often have trouble squeezing in everything you want to do during the day, week or month, let alone everything you might want to accomplish in a lifetime. Updates from friends on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat come in to your phone at all hours of the day and night. Invites to activities, events, festivals, etc. blow up your phone on a regular basis.

    At the office, things aren’t much better. Your Outlook inbox explodes with messages from clients, colleagues, or your boss, and everyone wants something different. You use multiple tools for managing your tasks, and every month something new seems to come out which promises to save you time and reduce the number of distractions in your life. Let me break the bad news, it won’t.

    The truth is, you have more time than you think to accomplish what you want out of life. As of 2016, men tend to live on average 69 years, versus 72 years for women. If most people start work at 18 and continue on until retirement around 65, this means you spend 47 years of your life working. You have, most likely, more time than you think to accomplish all that you want to do in this life. I urge you to slow down and take a few of these suggestions to heart as you think about how to get the most out of your days in the future.

    Here are 5 ways to make the most out of your time here on earth:

    1. Take personal days

    The idea of taking a personal day has been around for a long time, but few people really consider the value of taking one on a regular basis. Whether this means leaving work early on the third Friday of every month to do some “life-admin” or taking an entire day off in the middle of the week once a month to rigorously outline your plans and objectives for the future, the value of a personal day dedicated to reflection and personal development is completely underrated in today’s go-go society. I would urge you to set aside an entire day (half-days won’t work, as they are likely to be encroached upon) and make a concerted effort to spend that time reflecting about what you want to accomplish and the steps you will take to get there.

     “A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that other throw at him.” – David Brinkley

    2. Structure in blank space for distraction free work

    While taking time off to plan out your life and checking your personal progress is great, it is also important to structure small blocks of personal “switch off” time to let your mind wander during the typical work week. This may mean structuring in “strategic blocks” of one to two hours as suggested by Brian Moran and Michael Lennington in their book The 12 Week Year, or it may mean making a regular habit of doing “30 before 7:30” (30 minutes of concentrated work before 7:30am each morning) as suggested by Mel Robbins in her book The 5 Second Rule. Whatever you do, make sure you allow yourself some distraction free work time so that you can get into the flow.

    3. Leave technology behind

    We are tethered to our devices like never before, and we are rarely out of arm’s reach of something that can connect us to anyone (or any piece of information) in the world. I say this with some trepidation, because I am not entirely pleased about it. Sure, it is fantastic to have access to a device that can allow us to order food, call a car, create a professional looking video clip or photo, and post updates online all in the space of a few seconds, but it comes at a price.

    Despite having the freedom to connect with anyone and do nearly anything from behind a touch screen device, we have effectively become servants for the same network of interconnected apps and platforms. So, at the risk of having you stop reading this article, I urge you to put down your device for at least 1 day a week and connect with people in more humanistic (face to face) ways.

    4. Spend time with others not like you

    Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Think hard about that, because it will help define how you spend the rest of your life. If you believe that you become the average of the five people you spend the most time with, you will need to be careful that you spend time with people that add to your life, rather than detract from it.

    The more time you spend with people that come from similar backgrounds and share similar views as you, the more you will become closed off to the world around you. This is an easy habit to fall into, but it is one that can have dire consequences if you are serious about stretching yourself and reaching lofty goals. Go out and explore, and spend time with people that push you in new and exciting ways.

    “I never dreamed about success, I worked for it.” – Estee Lauder

    5. Have more fun

    I have noticed more and more that people tend to take pride in how stressed out they are and how much they work when they’re in the office. They then swing to the opposite extreme during the weekends, getting belligerently drunk and partying or staying in and watching Netflix for 48 hours straight. This is no way to live. It’s easy for me to call out because, truth be told, I used to be this way.

    Too often, people find themselves caught up in a world that promotes stress, anxiety and long-hours as a badge of honor. Rather than promote and support this type of behavior by falling into the trap of stress and anxiety caused by overwork, look for ways to have fun in the moment. Talk to colleagues, give compliments, make connections, learn new things, and just try to connect with others.

    Remember, you’ve likely got around 65-80 years on this planet, you don’t want to spend the majority of that time stressed out, waiting for the weekend. Instead, take to heart a few of these counterintuitive tricks and embrace every day with newfound appreciation. You won’t regret it, I promise.

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    5 Signs You’re Infatuated with Someone and Confusing it with Love

    In the beginning, love is a beautiful experience.

    You’re mad about one another and you can’t stop thinking about each other and the next time you’ll be able to meet. Emotions are high, physicality is off the charts, and you’re generally filled with an unshakeable sense of bliss.

    However, as time goes on, those feelings become less intense. It happens to everyone, love or not, so that’s nothing to worry about in a general sense. However, perhaps you begin to notice that those feelings have also changed a bit. Perhaps you’ve begun to question whether you’re really in love.

    If that’s the case, there’s a good chance that you were confusing infatuation with love. The sooner you notice this, the better, particularly if you’re actively in search of real love.

    So, let’s talk about a few signs you should look for if you’re still unsure about whether you’re feeling the real thing.

    I don’t think love should make you feel uneasy. When you feel sick, I don’t think that’s love — that’s infatuation.

    – Alexa Chung

    1. You’ve only known each other for a short while– and the energy has already begun to fade

    While not a strict sign of infatuation, pure infatuation only exists in young relationships.

    For that reason, if you’ve been together for a short while and the energy between the two of you has quickly subsided, that’s a pretty decent sign that you might have just been infatuated.

    2. You’re focused on your needs, not theirs

    Compared to love, which is more selfless and involves truly caring for the well-being of the other person, infatuation is more of a mutual leeching off one another. The whole relationship is based on “I see something I want -> I got what I want -> continue to feed the hunger (your needs).”

    If you notice yourself rarely taking their needs or desires into consideration– or notice the same behavior from the other person– that’s probably infatuation and not true love.

    3. All you want is to be physical with the other person

    Easily one of the biggest signs of pure infatuation is the desire to be physical with the other person constantly– with little desire to do anything else.

    It’s common for new couples who are in love to want to be physical more frequently. However, to go along with this desire for frequent physical contact are equal parts deep emotional and intellectual experiences as well.

    But if your relationship (if you can call it that) is missing that latter half and revolves almost– or literally– entirely around sex and other physical contact, that’s a big sign it’s infatuation.

    4. You get really jealous

    When someone is infatuated with another, they tend to be very possessive of that person.

    So, when someone or something threatens to take that person away from us, we become defensive or jealous, depending on the situation.

    If you’ve noticed yourself becoming intensely jealous frequently or seen that behavior in the other person, that’s a sign it’s infatuation and not real love.

    5. You think they’re perfect, even when it’s completely irrational

    When you’re infatuated, the other person appears absolutely perfect to you. And while this happens to some degree with every relationship, the level of this belief when infatuated is much more intense.

    In fact, it’s so intense that if your friends attempt to tell you negative things they’ve heard about the person, you brush them off and make an excuse for it. To you, everyone is clueless and you’ve found the absolute perfect specimen.

    True love is accepting of imperfections. In fact, it’s part of what makes love true, you’re fully accepting of the other person even being aware of their “flaws”.

    However, infatuation seeks perfection and it projects that desire off onto the other person even to the point of deceiving yourself, typically until it’s too late and you’ve been hurt as a result.

    Originally Written by : Matt Valentine
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