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    Math Quotes: The 10 Best Sayings For Math Lovers

    Math Quotes: The 10 Best Sayings For Math Lovers

    On Challenges:

    1) “Let’s make math fun and sexy and glamorous. Smart is sexy, that’s one of my main messages.” – Danica McKellar

    Our thoughts: Smart is always is in style.

    2. On Double-Standards:

    “Somehow it’s ok for people to chuckle about not being good at math. Yet if I said ‘I never learned to read’ they’d say I was an illiterate dolt.” – Neil deGrasse Tyson

    Our thoughts: As ones who make a lot of jokes about not being good at math, we never thought of it that way. We’ll refrain from now on.

    3. On making math sexy:

    Let’s face it; by and large math is not easy, but that’s what makes it so rewarding when you conquer a problem, and reach new heights of understanding.” – Danica McKellar

    Our thoughts: It is so very satisfying when you finally get the correct answer to that tough problem.

    4. On Math Being Art

    “One of the most amazing things about mathematics is the people who do math aren’t interested in application, because mathematics itself is truly a beautiful art form. It’s structures and patterns, and that’s what we love, and that’s what we get off on.” – Danica McKellar

    Our thoughts: We get off on that too Ms. McKellar.

    5. On math and money:

    “If you stop at general math, you’re only going to make general money.” – Snoop Dogg

    Our thoughts: Smooth. Smooth as fudge, Snoop.

    6) On Success In Math

    “If anyone tells you it’s impossible to be fabulous and smart and make a ton of money using math, well, they can just get in line behind you – and kiss your math.” – Danica McKellar

    Our thoughts: Kiss your math indeed.

    7. On problem solving:

    “Math, it’s a puzzle to me. I love figuring out puzzles.” – Maya Lin

    Our thoughts: We like puzzles too, but more of the picture kind.

    8. On exercise:

    “There’s no reason to stereotype yourself. Doing math is like going to the gym – it’s a workout for your brain and it makes you smarter.” – Danica McKellar

    Our thoughts: Keep your brain fit and healthy. Do math.

    9. On the arts:

    “Math and music are intimately related. Not necessarily on a conscious level, but sure.” – Stephen Sondheim.

    Our thoughts: You wouldn’t expect music and math to be related but both have formulas to them.

    10)  On Creativity:

    “I think math is a hugely creative field, because there are some very well-defined operations that you have to work within. You are, in a sense, straight-jacketed by the rules of mathematics. But within that constrained environment, it’s up to you what you do with the symbols. – Brain Greene

    Our thoughts: This one really made us think. But we think there’s something beautiful about being creative in whatever field you work in. Creativity always comes from within, not necessarily the environment.

     

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    The Real Hack Is In The Doing.

    I had a coaching call with a client recently and it was a trainwreck. I’m trying to get them to create content and they keep peering into the future. Instead of creating content they’re obsessed with:
    • Sales Funnels
    • When to monetize
    • How to convert inquiries into customers
    • What camera to use when filming videos
    • Writing a whitepaper

    I told them this:

    “Screw all of that. The key to success is in the doing.”

     

    Your Ideas change over time.

    When I first started blogging in 2014, I was doing interviews with entrepreneurs and turning them into blog posts. I had no idea what I was doing or even why I was doing it.

    The blog posts sucked and sounded like press releases.

    I hated the process.

    None of the blog posts got any engagement at all. Hearing entrepreneurs talk about raising money and selling widgets was boring to me.

    Then, one night at around 8 pm I wrote a blog post about changing my life. It was all the lessons I learned from studying personal development and it was nothing more than a brain fart.

    It took about 45 minutes to write and was published with spelling and grammar errors all the way through it. This post got shared 84,000 times on Facebook alone.

    All of a sudden, through focusing on the doing, I found something I liked.

    “What starts as an idea changes over time and you’ll never predict where things will end up. Trust in the process”

    Your beliefs change too.

    I told my coaching client that his beliefs would change too. What he believes right now will change in the future. This will shape his creative side and his content most of all.

    “Trying to predict where you’ll be in the future is like trying to predict when you’re going to die - it’s impossible to know”

    My beliefs initially about what I was doing came from a very self-centered view of the world that was all about the cliché version of success.

    I thought the nice car, suit, house and bikini babe was what mattered. Pretty quickly, as I produced lots of content and began reading, after not touching a book for more than ten years, I saw a different side.

    My beliefs about the world changed and the idea of money went to last place. Add on a couple of near-death experiences like a cancer scare and my beliefs are now completely different.

    I’m no longer trying to figure out how to suck out as much value from the world as I can for my own benefit. What I do daily is about a purpose far bigger than myself.

    I told my coaching client this story because I believed the same was true for him. He’s trying to impact people’s lives by getting them to fall in love with the work they do.

    Whenever he starts talking about this topic, I feel inspired. I told him that I say no to so many clients because I don’t believe in what they do.

    I believe in what he does and that’s why I’m obsessed with getting him to focus on the doing.

     

    You learn as you go.

    People have this obsession with the idea that you have to do a course, be mentored, study for years (insert excuse) before you can start doing what you love.

    This is a ridiculous idea and I challenge you to a duel if you think this way. As you continue the doing aspect of what you love, you’ll learn at the same time.

    Even if you’re not conscious about the learning side, the doing will reveal way more than waiting for accreditation, permission or a mentor’s approval to proceed ever will.

    Everything I know about social media, blogging, inspiring people and entrepreneurship came from the doing. Yes, there was deliberate learning along the way but that was always a distant second to the doing itself.

     

    Consuming vs. creating.

    My coaching client also suffered from the battle that is consuming vs. creating. He spent too much time watching what everyone else was doing and he didn’t spend enough time creating his own art.

    He’s currently posting one video a week and I told him that’s not enough. He has it within him to do at least one video a day if he quits consuming everybody else’s content.

    He also told me that he feels the need to respond to every comment he gets on social media. I told him this is nuts!!!

    You cannot respond to every comment or email you get online. This time is better spent creating than it is pumping up your ego with “thank you’s” and “yes I know I’m so smart.”

     

    The tools change.

    I started blogging on WordPress and now I do most things on Medium and LinkedIn. If I’d become too obsessed with the tools, then I would have wasted the time I could have been spending refining my craft.

    All the tools you use to execute on doing what you love will change, so treat them secondary to creating your unique art.

     

    You can’t preplan the doing 9 times out of 10.

    Your best work is often done when you’re spontaneous. For example, today is a public holiday in Australia and I wouldn’t normally write on a Wednesday.

    I felt inspired this morning though, so I decided to jump on the computer and do some creating. Some of my best work (if I look at the stats) has been done on public days and times when I didn’t plan to create anything.

    Over planning is a trap you need to avoid if you want to get down to the doing which produces results.

     

    The doing is the hardest part.

    The reason why many of you reading this are so obsessed with mentors, education, online courses and consuming someone else’s content is because all of these things are easy.

    The doing is the hardest part. Being creative takes up all of your energy and putting your work out there to be judged is hard on your ego.

    “Creating truly inspiring work takes every ounce of your emotions. You need flow states, time, resources and the belief that you’re enough to do the doing”

    What stops us from the doing is either procrastination or fear. These two evils prevent you from the doing without you often realizing.

    My coaching client wants to make a massive impact and he’s scared that he doesn’t have the ability. As his coach, I know he does and I’ve seen it.

    The battle that exists in your mind daily is whether you should be doing the doing or settling for something easier(often this looks like the same thing but it’s not!).

    Spending time doing the very thing that is hard, is how you leapfrog everyone else that never gets what they want and never lives a fulfilled life.

     

    How do you win so frequently?

    That’s what my coaching client asked me. He wanted to know how I produce so much content and have so many people watching online.

    I told him the truth: I just spend as much time as I can doing the doing.

    Everything else seems to take care of itself when I embrace this simple hack. You must become obsessed with the doing.

    Spend a disproportionate amount of time doing the doing and you’ll produce the results that are 10X of what you think you’re capable of.

    Are you ready to win?

     

    Originally Written by : Tim Denning
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    Top 10 Personal Development Channels On YouTube

    Here is a list of 10 personal development channels to check out and subscribe to on YouTube. Schedule in time daily to learn from these channels, to get inspired, and motivated to a higher degree. As with all self-education, it should lead to action, daily consistent action on your dreams. Who you spend time with is who you become. Listen, watch, and learn from the best in the game so that you can live life on a different level.

    Robin Sharma

    He is a Canadian writer and leadership speaker, best known for his The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari series. Robin is the founder of Sharma Leadership International, a global consultancy with a single focus: to help organizations develop employees Lead Without a Title. As a presenter, Sharma has the rare ability to electrify an audience yet deliver uncommonly original and useful insights that lead to individuals doing their best work, teams providing superb results and organizations becoming unbeatable.

    Brian Tracy

    He is a Canadian-born American motivational public speaker and self-development author. His popular books are Earn What You’re Really Worth, Eat That Frog!, and The Psychology of Achievement. His fast-moving talks and seminars on leadership, sales, managerial effectiveness and business strategy are loaded with powerful, proven ideas and strategies that people can immediately apply to get better results in every area.

    Tony Robbins

    He is an American author, entrepreneur, philanthropist and life coach. Robbins is known for his infomercials, seminars, and self-help books including Unlimited Power and Awaken the Giant Within. Through his personal development tapes and programs, Robbins has impacted more than 50 million people across 100 countries. Approximately 4 million people have attended his live seminars. Tony Robbins is a catalyst for change and a strategist for success.

    Peter Voogd

    He has been labeled as the world’s leading authority for millennials and entrepreneurs by Entrepreneur.com and numerous, stars in his own TV show called The Entrepreneur Grind, on the Whatever It Takes Network; founder of the prestigious Game Changer’s Academy, which is the premier networking community for young entrepreneurs; author of 2 #1 bestselling books and creator of The Young Entrepreneur Lifestyle podcast.

    Gary Vaynerchuck

    He is an American serial entrepreneur, four-time New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and internationally recognized internet personality. Vaynerchuk is best known as a digital marketing and social-media pioneer at the helm of New York-based VaynerMedia and VaynerX.

    Valuetainment

    Patrick Bet-David is an American entrepreneur and financial advisor. He founded PHP Agency Inc, an insurance sales, marketing, and distribution company. PHP is now one of the fastest growing companies in the financial marketplace. Patrick is passionate about shaping the next generation of leaders by teaching thought-provoking perspectives on entrepreneurship and disrupting the traditional approach to a career.

    Success Insider

    Tim Han is a high-performance coach, online marketing expert, master practitioner of NLP, international speaker, and an entrepreneur. Founder of successinsider.tv, he is a lifelong student of life, constantly striving to be the best man that he can be and to help others along the way. He tests, experiments, takes massive risks and shares his experiences every day.

    Gerard Adams

    Gerard Adams, also known as the Millennial Mentor, and the co-founder of Elite Daily, the No.1 news platform for Generation Y, is an experienced angel investor, thought leader and social entrepreneur. He overcame early adversity to become a self-made millionaire by the age of 24. Devoted to turning dreams into reality, Gerard has made it his mission to inspire and mentor young entrepreneurs on what it really takes to be successful. Gerard continues to expand and diversify his investment portfolio by backing businesses across multiple industries from technology to digital media to fashion.

    Jack Canfield

    He is an American author, motivational speaker, seminar leader, corporate trainer, and entrepreneur. He is the co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. In addition to publishing multiple New York Times best-selling books, he is also the Founder and Chairman of The Canfield Training Group, which trains entrepreneurs, educators, corporate leaders, and motivated individuals how to accelerate the achievement of their personal and professional goals.

    Lewis Howes

    Lewis Howes is an American author, entrepreneur, and former professional Arena League football player. He hosts The School of Greatness, a talk show distributed as a podcast. Learn and hear the stories from various successful people around the world, become inspired, motivated and educated with the School Of Greatness.

     

    Originally Written by : Asad Meah
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    5 Shared Values Your Relationship Needs to Flourish

    People have a strong reaction when I tell them I’m a dating coach.

    Many guys get standoffish or defensive. They’re personally challenged by the idea that I critique men on their confidence and ability with women. Some poke fun at the men who need that advice to deflect the attention off of themselves.

    It’s funny that a lot of those same guys eventually gain the courage to ask for my insight. Usually, that’s after they realize I’m down-to-earth and non-judgmental…or after a few drinks.

    Some women think I must teach weird creeps to manipulate people. Or that I’m a “player” douchebag. Or that I must have questionable morals to do what I do.

    But most women are actually curious and fascinated by the idea. They love discussing relationships and want to hear more about my perspective.

    So while the majority of women are supportive of my career, it’s completely different once a woman is actually dating me. It challenges their security within the relationship.

    I get it – my work isn’t easy for many women to handle. I teach men how to attract beautiful women, help write messages to those women, and most controversial of all, I act as a “wingman” to my in-person clients.

    Early on, I realized that if I decided to get into a long-term relationship, I needed someone who was not only comfortable with my work, but truly believed in it as much as I did. My wife trusts me and is a huge supporter of what I teach. She encourages me every day, and that’s the only way our relationship could work.

    Having someone who values my career is essential. Similarly, here are 5 core values you and your partner need to agree on for a relationship to thrive.

    Long distance is only temporary

    I’ve never been a fan of long-distance relationships for myself. But I know many couples who’ve started that way and ended with lasting, happy connections.

    The ones who succeeded had two things in common…

    First, they made frequent efforts to see each other in-person (at least monthly). Second, they made plans for one of them to move closer to the other, sooner than later. The second part is crucial.

    Every long distance relationship has a time limit — some studies put that around 5-14 months. We’re human and need face-to-face interactions to connect with the people closest to us, especially our intimate partners. We need to feel loved and desired, and occasional meetups can only satisfy that for so long.

    If you’ve been dating someone for months and think there’s serious potential, you need to discuss your future options together. At least one of you has to be willing to uproot their lives and move.

    This takes planning and compromise. You have to consider family, friends, education, and the ability to find new employment in a given location.

    If your partner can’t/won’t leave (let’s say for good reason) and you won’t either, then it’s not going to work. You shouldn’t mislead someone that you’ll be able to move eventually if you know deep down, you won’t.

    Either commit to making things work or move on so you can both find more suitable relationships.

    The role of religion in your lives

    There may be nothing that has a stronger hold on us than our beliefs. For some people, their religious beliefs (or lack thereof) are an integral part of who they are. It influences how they live.

    It can weigh on you when your partner believes in something different. You both may ignore it for a while, but there needs to be some resolution for there to be a future together.

    The conversation starts by each of you communicating why your current beliefs are important to you. You need to understand one another’s perspectives and values to help you empathize. Otherwise, it’s easy to take things personally and feel like your beliefs are being threatened.

    With that understanding, you can then talk about your needs and expectations. That will enable you to find compromise and meet each other halfway…if that’s possible.

    Can you accept the other person not adopting your beliefs as long as they accept yours? Can you promise not to secretly resent your partner? Could you live happily with someone if they say they could never become a believer? Would you occasionally join your partner at church to support them? Would you attend a religious service to see what it’s like if you’ve never tried it?

    These are the questions you need to answer together. Because the relationship can only work with one of two outcomes:

    Either you accept each other’s differences and love each other despite them. Or one person shift theirs beliefs enough (because they authentically want to) to satisfy the other.

    The importance of family approval

    Family is everything to a lot of people, myself included. We cherish their love and value their opinions.

    Sometimes, though, family doesn’t approve of the people you date. That complicates things because you want to satisfy and appease your family, but also follow your heart.

    If they’ve got good reason (like you’re in a controlling or abusive relationship), I understand they’re looking out for you. But other times, family may not approve of someone due to race, intellect, career, or even gender. And as much as I love family, I don’t think it’s right for them to dictate your happiness.

    I’ve seen a lot of relationships fail when one person can’t look past their family’s disapproval. Sometimes they think they can, but when the reality sets in that their parents might not financially support them, want to ever see them together, or even threaten to disown them — they give in.

    If you or the person you’re with is in this situation, you have to make a choice. You both need to sit down and discuss the real consequences that may occur if you stay together. You then both have to accept that fate if it happens or acknowledge you can’t handle that reality.

    If you decide to see this relationship through, then the person struggling with their family has to clearly communicate that decision to them. You can’t put it off or tell your partner that you will do it some time down the line. You need to tell your loved ones you’ve committed to the relationship and you hope they can come to accept that.

    Family should want their children to be happy and live their own lives.

    The expectations for your sex life

    Intimacy is a core human need. Unless you’re asexual, you will need to get that need met in a romantic connection.

    Everyone has a different level of desire and threshold for how long they can hold out. On average, research shows that people who want sex in a relationship, need it at least once a week.

    Some people, though, wait on those needs for long periods of time based on religious and cultural values. And other people unfortunately struggle to be more intimate due to trauma or sexual shame.

    Sex drive incompatibility can be a controversial subject to talk about, especially early in a relationship. But it’s important to uncover the obstacles that may keep your partner from intimacy – like religion, shame, or decreased interest over time.

    Ask them why they feel this way. Share how important intimacy is to you. Find out how you can make them feel comfortable and desired.

    When it comes to religious beliefs or cultural traditions, I’ve found that this isn’t something most people will readily abandon. And coercing someone into betraying their values never ends well.

    If your partner is dealing with general shame, trauma, or anxiety — open communication, reassurance, patience, and time can help build your sexual bond.

    Moreover, if you’re already in a long-term relationship and the sex isn’t as frequent as you’d like, try to understand why your partner isn’t feeling as intimate.

    Maybe they’re overly stressed out. Maybe they haven’t realized how important it is to you. Maybe they have other sexual needs or kinks that feels fulfilling.

    Maybe you stopped trying as hard both in the relationship and in bed. You stopped creating some variety or giving the proper time for foreplay.

    And sometimes, it’s realizing the attraction has died and the relationship has run its course.

    But communication is only one part of the solution in an existing relationship. You also need to act. Get in touch with the qualities they found attractive in the first place. Surprise them throughout the day with flirtatious banter. Be more spontaneous and work towards creating better, more fun sexual experiences.

    For most people, finding sexual harmony in a relationship is a must. You might be able to convince yourself to wait months or years for a partner to be ready. But you’ll be miserable throughout and stray or break up when you inevitably can’t take it anymore.

    Mutual respect is non-negotiable

    Without respect in a relationship, you have nothing. I cannot stress that enough. This is the core value your relationship needs to have.

    That means you cherish, love, and believe in your partner. You want to support theirindependence and their pursuit of happiness. And they should want the same for you.

    That idea goes so deep.

    It means being honest with your significant other even when it’s hard because you know they deserve the truth. It’s accepting them for their faults. It’s working towards solutions when you disagree rather than trying to prove the other person wrong. It’s showing up for them when they really need it.

    Someone who tries to control you does not respect you. Someone who repeatedly lies to you does not respect you. Someone who never values your time and is always aloof does not respect you.

    Having an emotionally or physically abusive partner is not okay…ever. They do not respect you.

    If you don’t have respect, I don’t care if you have fun together. It won’t matter if you like all the same things. It’s pointless if you find them irresistible.

    Because without respect comes disrespect. Then comes resentment and contempt. They will sabotage your personal growth. There will always be turmoil and turbulence. There will always be a tremendous amount of pain.

    You’ll never be treated the way you want or feel you deserve. And therefore you can’t have a healthy, happy connection.

    It’s not your job to fix them and nor is it endearing. Strong relationships only last when both people want have absolute respect for one another.

    So choose people who you respect and who show you respect from the start. Communicate your boundaries and express them when they’re challenged.

    Most of all, don’t stay with people who routinely disrespect you after you keep voicing your concerns.

    If you don’t stand up for yourself, who will?

     

    Originally Written by : Nick Notas
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    10 Hidden Secrets of a Millionaire Mindset

    When we look at the behavior and attitudes of those who are financially successful and those who struggle to create wealth, we see many key differences.

    However, there is one interesting psychological trait that is shared between the poor and rich alike. This is something called the self-serving bias.

    The self-serving bias is any perceptual distortion which an individual has, so they can continue to see themselves in a favorable light. We see this commonly when we look at entitled people who come from wealth and seem to blindly attribute their success to their talent – some like to call this the silver-spoon effect. For those of us who don’t have such a leg-up in life, it can be incredibly frustrating to see these people fail to show any signs of humility.

    This self-serving bias goes both ways. Most people who look at the lives of others underestimate the value of talent, work ethic and mindset in their successes, and overestimate the value of luck. We also tend to judge the failures of others as character flaws as opposed to bad luck.

    secrets of a millionaire mindset

    So what can we learn from this?

    Well while luck is a factor, it is entirely out of our control, and therefore the single most important area on which we should focus our attention is our mindset. If we can adopt a millionaire mindset, it can make us far more likely to earn this kind of money.

    Wealthy people will often tell you: it’s all about mindset. And the truth is, yes, it’s mostly about mindset.

    So here are 10 hidden secrets of a millionaire mindset…

    10. Millionaire’s have faith in their unconscious mind

    The conscious mind is fickle and unreliable. It constantly changes its stance on things, raising objections and doubts that get in the way of clear and concise decision-making. The millionaire mindset necessitates that we rely on something greater than what we feel in the present moment, something that goes beyond our fears and worries. Some may call this intuition, but others may say that they just have faith in their unconscious mind to lead them in the right direction at the right time.

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    9. Millionaire’s start from a place of absolute clarity

    Knowing what you want is one thing, knowing what you want down to the tiniest detail is another. Millionaires will often have very clear goals and plans that they will follow to a tee until they get to where they want to be. We often see the same mindset in hyper-successful athletes who talk about visualizing their success for years before it manifests. If you want to have a mindset of growth and abundance, you need to define exactly what it is that you want and know the experience intimately before it comes into existence.

    8. Millionaire’s know that attention is their greatest asset

    The average person spends hours and hours every day wasting time. Social media, T.V., video games on their cell phones, mindless eating, smoking cigarettes, the list goes on and on. The millionaire knows that their attention is valuable and they don’t waste it on activities that don’t offer them anything in return. Everything they do is focused towards their goal.

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    7. Millionaire’s never lose sight of their goal

    To ensure that you don’t waste attention on trivial pursuits it’s important that you keep your goal in front of you at all times. One way to do this is by creating a life where you are surrounded by other people with similar aims. You can also make sure you’re constantly celebrating the small wins so you know exactly what you’re working for.

    6. Millionaire’s untangle their relationship with money

    This is the most elusive aspect of the millionaire mindset. Most people never even consider that their inability to make money could be tied to their unconscious relationship to it. We’ve been conditioned to believe in a hollywood-esque version of the rich villain, and as a result, we think that gaining wealth means acting in a way that questions our moral integrity. Whether you’re a good person isn’t tied to your bank account, you can make money and still help people. Make sure you don’t have a conflicting relationship with money and that you have no moral questions about becoming wealthy.

    secrets of a millionaire mindset

    5. Millionaire’s decide what has meaning in their life

    You need to decide that money is a valuable asset to your life. If you listen to what everyone else tells you to care about, you’ll never have the focus to get up and go chase wealth – there are simply too many opinions. If you decide what has meaning in your life, and don’t follow the herd, your mindset will drive you towards success.

    4. Millionaire’s give more than they take

    This may be counterintuitive but the millionaire mindset gives more than it takes. To gain wealth you have to be social, and to be successful in your relationships, you have to offer value. Always look to provide something for others, and what you get in return will fall into place.

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    3. Millionaire’s know their motivations

    People can make a lot of money when they are driven by negative emotions; anger, greed, insecurity. But that will never bring you the fulfillment that you’re expecting. When you’re driven by a need to serve others, then money will bring with it a sense of fulfillment. Know that you have the right motivations to become wealthy.

    2. Millionaire’s don’t take things so personally

    Another aspect of the millionaire mindset is that they don’t take things so personally. When we see our ups and downs as reflections of our self-worth, it’s hard to stay grounded and consistent in our actions. Failure is seen by the wealthy as an opportunity for growth. There are thousands of factors controlling their successes and failures. Simply take everything that comes your way as a lesson, don’t celebrate victories for too long and don’t ruminate on defeats either.

    1. Millionaire’s take risks

    This is something everyone knows, but how often do we consider it in our own lives? If you want to be successful, you need to take risks. There is no other way around it. You must take chances if you want to be rewarded. Consider also that if we are able to take our failures as opportunities for growth, we won’t be so fearful when it comes to taking risks!

    Conclusion

    These 10 hidden secrets of the millionaire mindset show you the psychology of people who are able to generate great wealth. Though adopting this framework will not happen overnight, constant reflection leads to changes in beliefs which lead to changes in behavior. Wealth creation is closer than you think, it simply requires knowledge, courage and diligence.

     

    Originally Written by : Benjamin Fishel
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    HOW TO BECOME AN ALPHA MALE & STOP BEING A BETA

    Ever wondered what makes men beta or alpha males?

    Girls have an incredible ability to read body language and facial features. In most cases they can tell when you’re upset long before you say anything about it.

    Scientists believe they develop these skills because it’s a woman’s nature to nurture. Girls also have slightly better hearing than men, so they can hear a wider range of sounds and detect the slightest changes in your voice.

    Studies show that girls can read body language two to three times better than men so good luck trying to hide it. we live in a world that has caused a lot of men to develop a beta personality.

    A lot of men have lost touch with their masculinity, and they’ve resorted to things like calling other guys names over the internet.

    Guys also don’t meet face to face as much as they would have done in earlier times, due to advanced technology; and some guys are unknowingly displaying all the signs of a beta male.

    Yet they wonder why they’re not getting attention from girls or why they can’t seem to get a girl for good.

     

    5 Common Traits of Beta Males

    If she says that your displaying the sides of the beta male, all hope is not lost. There’s a good chance that you simply have lost touch with your manhood. And it’s time to get it back.

    The alpha male is the top-rated animal within his social group.

    The major difference between alpha males among humans and alpha males in the animal kingdom is that humans must adopt the required mental state. Having huge muscles isn’t always important.

    It helps of course, but in the real world even guys that are skinny can become alphas. You just need to understand the different traits that alphas and betas possess, and then switch from one to the other.

    Here are 5 common traits of beta males:

     

    1. The Nice Guy

    A typical beta male is a nice guy. The problem is not being nice, no. The problem is that this guy is being too nice, too often. Even when he has absolutely no reason to be.

    Everything in life comes down to moderation. It doesn’t matter whether it’s to do with being aggressive, or being passive. There are times when we all must be nice, but the difference is that the beta male feels he needs to be nice all the time.

    Not because he naturally is a nice person, but because he feels this is the best way to behave to get everybody to like you. He’s nice to everyone, every time, in every situation, and that’s a problem.

     

    2. Lack of Confidence

    The second major sign of the beta male, is questioning your ability.

    They lack the raw confidence present within alpha’s, and so they constantly second guess themselves. They also make excuses to not do something even if they can actually do it.

    A great example of this is repeatedly asking the new girlfriend for approval. If the beta doesn’t even have confidence in his ability to dress himself, then how can we expect girls to trust him.

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    3. Putting the Needs of Everyone Else Before His Own

    The 3rd common trait of the beta male is putting everybody else’s needs before his own. Again, as we mentioned before, success all comes down to moderation.

    The problem is that when you can’t carefully choose when to put your own needs above other people’s, you are not taking care of yourself. And when you’re not taking care of yourself, how do you expect to take care of the women you love, or even attract her in the first place.

     

    4. Worried About What Others Think

    The 4th trait that the majority of beta males possess, is being worried about what people think far too often.

    I used to do this all the time. And I was unable to have a stab at anything I thought I might enjoy, purely because I didn’t want to make a mistake and be laughed at.

    At the end of the day, if you can get over this fear, then you’re on your way to becoming an alpha. The reason for this is because people without this fear are able to go after what they want, without hesitation. And they don’t back down if they suffer from setbacks.

     

    5. Secretive & Does Not Make His Desires Known

    The fifth sign of the beta male is that he is secretive, and doesn’t make his desires known to others.

    Beta males are just like anyone else. They have desires, dreams, and career aspirations; however they always keep these things to themselves because they’re too afraid of to be judged by others. He lacks the confidence to share these aspirations with the rest of the world.

     

    What If I Have Some of The Beta Male Traits?

    Some guys only display one or two of these traits. However, in many cases, displaying just one of these traits makes it more likely that you possess all four.

     

    5 Common Traits of Alpha Males

    If you’re knowingly displaying the sides of the beta male, I’ve got good news for you. You can start working on yourself reclaim it would be called the alpha male. But first you need to understand what it actually means the alpha male.

     

    1. Confidence

    The number one thing that sets the alpha male apart from the beta is confidence. If you could master this single trait, most of the other requirements of the alpha will automatically fall into place.

    The alpha thinks highly of himself in any situation. And he’s not always right or perfect but he believes in his ability, no matter what anyone says.

     

    2. Not Easily Embarrassed

    The second part of the alpha is that he’s not embarrassed easily. He doesn’t have to worry about other people’s opinions. And he’s not afraid to laugh at himself. The alpha is able to speak up, and even go against social norms, if necessary.

     

    3. Masculinity

    The third side of the alpha is masculinity. The alpha male is a real man. Real men come in all different shapes and sizes. They are leaders, and dominate with confidence around girls.

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    The alpha is not rude and he’s not a jerk, but he knows what he wants and he takes it.

    With this state of mind he’s successful in those areas that beta males struggle with. The alpha is direct and honest. He’s never afraid to speak his mind, and he is direct with his communication.

    The alpha male is also social, and has a dynamic personality that allows him to connect with many different types of people.

     

    4. Isn’t Afraid to Take Risks

    Another major characteristic that sets the alpha apart from the beta, is his ability to take chances.

    He isn’t afraid to take big or small risks. He’s aware that success comes only from taking chances, which is why he’s not afraid to fail.

     

    How to Become An Alpha Male

    Now that you understand the differences between beta and alpha males, it’s time to become an alpha! You must learn some simple steps that’ll help you start transitioning into the role of the alpha:

     

    1. Face Your Fears, Don’t Run From Them

    To become the alpha male, you must deal with your fears and stop running from them. At the core of every beta male, you’ll find self-inhibition, and impassiveness.

    Fear can appear in many forms:

    Let’s say you want to approach a beautiful girl, but you start thinking about all those things that could go wrong. You then abandon the idea; and at that exact moment your fear has planted a seed inside your mind.

    The next time you want to take the risk for yourself, and you’re too scared to do it; that little seed will grow, and grow. Over time, it will become so big that it’ll overwhelm your entire life.

    Before you know it, the fear will have become so powerful, that approaching a beautiful girl will be impossible.

    The crazy thing is that this giant tree of fear grew from some imaginary seed. The fear never really existed in the first place, but you gave it the power to live inside your mind.

    To call yourself an alpha male, you must always deal with your fears. Never be afraid to speak up for yourself, even if you don’t necessarily need to.

     

    2. Accept & Deal With Conflict

    The second step to becoming an alpha is to be okay with conflict.

    You will always have conflicts in your life. Doesn’t matter who you are or what kind of personality you have, conflict will find a way to appear. And when it does, you should know how to deal with it.

    Instead of being aggressive, learn to recognize, accept and deal with conflict.

     

    3. Get Over Yourself

    The third step to becoming that alpha male is getting over yourself.

    Basically what I mean by this is to stop being shy, feeling scared and feeling inferior. You can’t be an alpha when you’re constantly overthinking all these things, and letting small problems get into your head.

     

    4. Learn to Be Assertive

    The fourth step to developing the alpha mentality is learning how to be assertive. In other words, stand up for yourself without being aggressive or passive.

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    Many guys struggle to do this correctly. They either show aggression, which will make people doubt their intelligence. Or they’ll be act passively, which will make women doubt their ability to provide and protect.

     

    Originally Written by : Dan Western
    Link to original article: click here

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    How to Organize Your Life Right Now In 10 Easy Steps

    As a global business consultant, I travel. A lot. And I must admit that, at first, I wasn’t very good at it. Being in multiple countries with multiple time zones in just a few days’ time meant that I needed to be really organized. After a few missed meetings, late night appointments and near-missed flights, I decided to seek the help of productivity specialist, Lori Krolik, President of More Time for You. She taught me the magical life lesson of mastering checklists.

    I’ve learned that without them, you’re doomed.

    Here’s what she told me:

    “Create checklists for the places you travel to, especially globally, when you might need special medicines or articles of clothing. For example, you might need Malaria medicine in certain humid, remote, climates. Or that easily packable down coat when traveling to cold weather. Pull the checklist out each time when you’re getting ready to go to make sure you aren’t forgetting anything.”

    It was as if that advice opened a Pandora’s box of how to organize my life. Not only was I able to be in the right place at the right time no matter where I was on the globe, but I began to physically and mentally cut through clutter in all aspects of my life—professional and personal.

    And, now that I have it together, I want you share with you the ten secrets of how to organize your life, too.

    How to Organize Your Life Right Now In 10 Easy Steps

    Prioritize.

    First, you’ve got to believe in yourself that you can be the conqueror of clutter. The way to do this is to hone in on what needs to be organized. Don’t be daunted. Think, what areas are the most disorganized? What areas are stressing you out and making it difficult for you to achieve certain tasks like scheduling meetings or fixing supper? Start that checklist and tackle one before moving onto the next.

    Get dressed.

    There’s a trend among organized people. They start their mornings with the same routine every single day—no matter if they’re going to work or staying home. A lot of successful people like to start the day by making their bed – this way they start the day with a small achievement. This simple act of getting ready for the day no matter where it may take you can change your perspective and help you be more productive. It’s the simple knowledge that you’re prepared for anything—inside or outside the house.

    Write everything down.

    Sure, we live in an age where pen and paper is antiquated but it’s a great way to remember things. Write out those checklists and savor the triumphant feeling you have when you get to mark things off. For important dates and errands, feel free to use your smart phone. But no matter what, write (or type) it somewhere. To-do lists do no good floating around in your head.

    Master the calendar.

    Speaking of dates, my productivity guru, Lori, also shared some important advice when it comes to scheduling meetings—be sure to use the notes section in your calendar. Don’t rely on your memory when it comes to recalling who is calling who, or what is on the agenda, or for me, what time zone the call is meant to take place. Auto-conversion doesn’t work sometimes, so she advised me to put all relevant times and time-zones manually in the body of the invitation.

    Be an anti-procrastinator.

    Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but procrastination only adds to stress—and disorganization. The longer you wait to do something, the harder it will be to get the task done (plus, you’ll likely do a worse job because of the pressure and time constraints). Getting things done as soon as you can nixes the feeling of having something hanging over your head. Try it! It can be liberating!

    Give everything a home.

    Some people love, love, love label makers. And, I never quite understood it. Those little machines seem to have an underground fan club of highly organized people. And now I know why—I’ve learned those little things can be a powerful weapon when it comes to getting organized. Pick one up and head to the Container Store and get a host of bins, boxes, and folders. Then go crazy. Give everything in your life its designated place. If everything has a home, you’ll lessen your chances of losing anything. Think of the time you’ll save not looking for your keys! This goes for email, too. Create folders and send those emails home.

    Get rid of junk regularly.

    A big key to how to organize your life is spending time on a regular basis, whether it be every week or every month, to go through and declutter. Get rid of things you don’t need. A rule I have for clothes and personal items is, if I haven’t used it in a year, to bring it to Good Will or a consignment shop. Also, if I purchase something new, like a new sweater or pair of shoes, that means I must get rid of something. This also helps fight the clutter war.

    Put things back where they belong.

    Now that everything has a “home”, make sure it stays that way. Don’t use that flashlight and then stick it in a nearby cupboard. Take a moment and place it back in the neatly labeled container you got it from. That way when you need it next, you’ll know where to look.

    Share the work.

    One of the perks of being really organized is freedom from being really stressed and overwhelmed. And freedom from being really stressed and overwhelmed means demands that you not have too much on your plate. Really organized people know how to delegate. If you find that your plate is overflowing, prioritize and consider dropping or delegating the less important tasks. It’s okay to cancel plans so that you have time to think. Or, even, just to breathe.

    That brings me to my last secret of how to organize your life—

    Stop trying to be perfect!

    Organized people have the image of being perfectionists but the truth is, they aren’t. It’s just the illusion they’ve created because they have the space and time to do what’s important well. If you feel like you must do everything perfectly, you’re not going to get anything done. So try to do the best you can for the most important stuff, and be okay with “good enough” for the others—or ask for help. This will help you combat procrastination and free up your time.

    Since I discovered these secrets of how to organize one’s life and work, I’ve been much more productive while being less stressed. It seems contradictory but by investing a little bit of time into organizing every day, I’ve been able to have more time to do the things I want—and do them well.

     

    Originally Written by : Melissa Lamson
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    How to Plan a First Date

    First dates don’t have to be as nerve-racking as we make them out to be. A lot of it comes down to planning ahead and tailoring the experience to your personalities. Sometimes just picking the right environment allows you two to bond and kick-starts your chemistry.

    So now you’ve got a girl’s number and you’re ready to set up the date. Where should you go? Where should you avoid? Most of all, what should you do?

    This article will show you how to craft memorable first dates that lead to even better second dates.

    The Ground Rules

    1. Base it on common interestsDuring your initial meeting with a girl, try to discover her passions, interests, and hobbies while sharing yours, too. It makes it a hell of a lot easier to come up with a date idea that is fun and relevant to both parties. You can always introduce her to something new, but if you both love singing, why not go to karaoke night?
    2. Don’t overspend
      I’m all for treating a girl to a fancy night out, but it’s not usually the best way to start. Going overboard can put a lot of pressure on the evening and scare a girl away. You come off too strong, too soon and convey the wrong message. You’re trying to buy her affection rather than let her experience it naturally.

      And expensive gifts like a dozen long stem roses or $150 bottles of wine are unnecessary. Just bring yourself, it’s all you need to win her over.

    3. Keep it simpleNothing kills the mood like waiting in bumper-to-bumper traffic. Or driving in endless circles to find parking. Or waiting outside the bar for an hour. Be reasonable and make the date as painless as possible.

      Don’t make her drive thirty miles to see you — meet her at least half-way or closer to her house. On the same note, don’t plan for somewhere you’re going to get lost and end up late. Simple is the best choice, save the elaborate plans for future meetings.

    4. Encourage conversation
      A date should be an experience that facilitates communicating and getting to know each other. That’s why I don’t generally recommend movie dates. Can they work? Yes, but they’re not the ideal situation. They force you to be quiet next to one another when the date should be all about the interaction between you.

      You want to flirt, laugh, and build the romantic tension. It’s much harder to do that when you’re silent and staring at a screen. Choose dates that provide opportunities to converse freely and frequently.

    5. Make it one-on-oneI know it’s easier to ask her to go out with you and your friends, but first dates should be spent with just the two of you. You’re much more likely to create a personal, intimate connection without other people around. You’ll make your intentions clear and set the right tone.

      Many girls won’t be comfortable flirting or getting physical on a first date with people watching. It goes back to “keep it low pressure.” You don’t want her feeling judged or have to deal with a bunch of new faces. Your friends will understand.

    Where to Go and What to Do

    The not-so-safe bet

    Dinner is by far the most popular first date idea. However, I can’t stand behind it for everyone. Dinner forces you to stare at each other and make conversation for hours. It can be awkward, stressful, and seem like an interview.

    I like dinner dates. Mainly because I love food, but also because I’m a strong conversationalist and comfortable in that situation. But, if you’re inexperienced or haven’t been on a first date in a while, try something casual like…

    The actual safe bet

    Grabbing drinks is the reliable choice and far less intense than dinner. You can move around, stand next to each other, and relax in a social setting. If the date isn’t going well, neither of you feel obligated to sit through an entire meal before leaving. If it is going well, you can move to another location or even back to one of your places.

    Also, let’s be serious – alcohol is a social lubricant. I’m not saying to get smashed (you shouldn’t) but a drink or two can lighten the mood.

    If one of you doesn’t drink, coffee is a great alternative. Even though it may seem similar to dinner, it’s a different atmosphere. It’s more low-key and flexible — you can go for an afternoon cup or a weekend pick-me-up.

    30 awesome first dates

    • Apple picking
    • Aquarium
    • Arcade (playful and you can challenge each other)
    • Auction
    • Bike ride
    • Board/card games at a coffee shop
    • Bookstore
    • Bowling
    • Cooking class / cook something together
    • Costco/BJs/shopping club (free food is always good!)
    • Dog walk at the park
    • Explore downtown and window shop
    • Farmer’s market
    • Flea market
    • Hiking
    • Historical landmark / home
    • Ice cream shop / bakery
    • Ice Skating
    • Karaoke
    • Museum or art gallery
    • Open house (pretend to be a couple)
    • Outdoor festival (music, arts and crafts, Renaissance)
    • Outdoor/botanical garden or forest preserve
    • Paint your own pottery shop
    • Pet store
    • Picnic or feed the ducks
    • Playground (act like kids)
    • Shopping at the mall
    • Sporting event
    • Wine tasting or brewery

     

    Originally Written by : Nick Notas
    Link to original article: click here

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    Best Dream Quotes About Life, Love and the Future

    Looking for thought-provoking dream quotes about your waking life?

    The study of dreams has long been a fascination with many.

    People often wake up puzzled by what they have dreamt. Some want to search for the meaning of what ran through their mind.

    As bizarre as some of the images and themes may seem, dreams are our subconscious way of working through things that are troubling us, or that are unsettled, while we sleep.

    Dreams have been studied by so many individuals for years. Many books have been written explaining the symbolisms found in them.

    While there is some discrepancy or multiple meanings for some of the dream symbols, most remain consistent. Understanding them can help an individual see the bigger picture and find greater meaning in their dreams.

    In this respect, here are some dream quotes from some of the great – and surprising minds – of our time. Read them to understand more about your dreams and the nature of your reality.

    Dream quotes to help you interpret your dreams and waking life better

    1.) “Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.”- William Dement

    2.) “All that we see or seem, is but a dream within a dream.”- Edgar Allan Poe

    3.) “Dreams are illustrations…from the book your soul is writing about you.”- Marsha Norman

    4.) “The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened.”- James Arthur Baldwin

    5.) “Dreams feel real while we’re in them. It’s only when we wake up that we realize something was actually strange.”- Inception, 2010 film

    6.) “Even the loveliest dream bears like a blemish its difference from reality, the awareness that what it grants is mere illusion.”- Theodor Wiesengrund Adorno

    7.) “Dreams are often most profound when they seem the most crazy.”- Sigmund Freud

    9.) “Yet it is in our idleness, in our dreams, that the submerged truth sometimes comes to the top.”- Virginia Woolf

    10.) “Dreaming is an act of pure imagination, attesting in all men a creative power, which if it were available in waking, would make every man a Dante or Shakespeare.”- H.F. Hedge

    11.) “All the things one has forgotten scream for help in dreams.”- Elias Canetti

    12.) “For often, when one is asleep, there is something in consciousness which declares that what then presents itself is but a dream.”- Aristotle

    13.) “Dreams are more real than reality itself, they’re closer to the self.”- Gao Xingjian

    14.) “The interpretation of dreams is the royal road to a knowledge of the unconscious activities of the mind.”- Sigmund Freud

    15.) “Dreams are true while they last, and do we not live in dreams?”- Alfred Lord Tennyson

    16.) “In sleep, fantasy takes the form of dreams. But in waking life, too, we continue to dream beneath the threshold of consciousness, especially when under the influence of repressed or other unconscious complexes.”- Carl Jung

    17.) “A dream which is not interpreted is like a letter which is not read.”- The Talmud

    18.) “I am accustomed to sleep and in my dreams to imagine the same things that lunatics imagine when awake.”- René Descartes

    Dream quotes about the nature of our reality

    19.) “Your world is not real!”- Inception, 2010 film

    20.) “Every dream that anyone ever has is theirs alone and they never manage to share it. And they never manage to remember it either. Not truly or accurately. Not as it was. Our memories and our vocabularies aren’t up to the job.”- Alex Garland

    21.) “Dreams are excursions into the limbo of things, a semi-deliverance from the human prison.”- Henri Amiel

    22.) “Insomnia is a gross feeder. It will nourish itself on any kind of thinking, including thinking about not thinking.”- Clifton Fadima

    23.) “Sleep… Oh! How I loathe those little slices of death.”- Author unknown

    24.) “Huge and mighty forms that do not live like living men, moved slowly through the mind by day and were trouble to my dreams.”- William Wordsworth

    25.) “Dreams say what they mean, but they don’t say it in daytime language.”- Gail Godwin

    26.) “A ruffled mind makes a restless pillow.”- Charlotte Brontë

    27.) “Recall the old story of the rather refined young man who preferred sex dreams to visiting brothels because he met a much nicer type of girl that way.”- Vivian Mercer

    28.) “I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can play together all night.”- Bill Watterson

    29.) “There’s a long, long trail a-winding into the land of my dreams.”- Stoddard King, Jr.

    30.) “One can write, think, and pray exclusively of others; dreams are all egocentric.”- Evelyn Waugh

    31.) “Our dreams disturb us because they refuse to pander to our fondest notions of ourselves. The closer one looks, the more they seem to insist upon a challenging proposition: You must live truthfully. Right now. And always. Few forces in life present, with an equal sense of inevitability, the bare-knuckle facts of who we are, and the demands of what we might become.”- Marc Ian Barasch

    32.) “In a dream you are never eighty.”- Anne Sexton

    33.) “In dreams, we enter a world that’s entirely our own.”- Steven Kloves

    34.) “I’ll take the dream I had last night, And put it in my freezer, So someday long and far away, When I’m an old grey greezer, I’ll take it out and thaw it out, This lovely dream I’ve frozen, And boil it up and sit me down And dip my old cold toes in.”- Shel Silverstein

    35.) “Sleeping is no mean art: for its sake one must stay awake all day.”- Friedrich Nietzsche

     Beautiful Dream Quotes for You

    36.) “The best reason for having dreams is that in dreams no reasons are necessary.”- Ashleigh Brilliant

    37.) “I have always been amazed at the way an ordinary observer lends so much more credence and attaches so much more importance to waking events than to those occurring in dreams…. Man… is above all the plaything of his memory.”- Andre Breton

    38.) “A dream is a microscope through which we look at the hidden occurrences in our soul.”- Erich Fromm

    39.) “Even thus last night, and two nights more I lay, And could not win thee, Sleep, by any stealth: So do not let me wear to-night away. Without thee what is all the morning’s wealth? Come, blessed barrier between day and day, Dear mother of fresh thoughts and joyous health!”- William Wordsworth

    40.) “We are not only less reasonable and less decent in our dreams… we are also more intelligent, wiser, and capable of better judgment when we are asleep than when we are awake.”- Erich Fromm

    41.) “For a dreamer, night’s the only time of day.”- Newsies

    42.) “Sleep that knits up the raveled sleave of care, The death of each day’s life, sore labour’s bath Balm of hurt minds, great nature’s second course, Chief nourisher in life’s feast.”- William Shakespeare, Macbeth

    43.) “Those who have compared our life to a dream were right…. We sleeping wake, and waking sleep.”- Michel de Montaigne

    44.) “The sailor does not control the sea, nor does the lucid dreamer control the dream. Like a sailor, lucid dreamers manipulate or direct themselves in the larger expanse of dreaming; however, they do not control it. Lucid dreaming appears to be a co-created experience.”- Robert Waggoner

    45.) “Pause now to ask yourself the following question: ‘Am I dreaming or awake, right now?’ Be serious, really try to answer the question to the best of your ability and be ready to justify your answer.”- Stephen LaBerge

     

    Originally Written by : Dr. Nikki Martinez
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    5 Ways a Young Salesperson Can Excel in Their Role

    Sales is a great first job to get out of college for the lessons it teaches. A new salesperson quickly experiences rejection, learns they are not as good as they thought they were, and gets a real understanding that their path is not going to be an easy one.  The market chews them up and spits them out, and there is very little they can do about it.

    I can say this because I recently completed two years of sales experience and learned these lessons the hard way. To find a semblance of success, I had to set my ego aside and modify my expectations.

    This introduction to sales taught me five lessons that helped me overcome roadblocks, penetrate gatekeepers, and settle into the workforce:

    1. Education Doesn’t Equal Performance

    Like most recent graduates I felt prepared to conquer the world right out of college and was confident I could understand anything I set my mind to.  Fresh off the high of achieving my academic goals, I realized within days that there was a small problem – the skillset did not translate.

    As great of a job formal education does to expand your mind and teach you new thought patterns, it is very theoretical. When it comes to practically applying that knowledge, young professionals often find themselves underprepared.  This disconnect is a result of the way their performance is measured – A student is evaluated based on a test, which is predictable and objective.

    A salesperson is evaluated on their sales numbers, which has a lot of built in unpredictability.  On top of that, the execution of a sales call is much more difficult to objectively quantify. Due to this, when a young professional first finds themself in a sales environment, they are vulnerable to their inexperience in that setting and their performance suffers.

    A technique that helps me be more confident in this new arena is role-playing.  Simulating an unpredictable environment has been a great exercise for me because it has provided me with experience in this new setting.

    2. Know How to Be Old-Fashioned

    A fundamental part of sales is meeting your customer at their level.  Young salespeople often come across targets who prefer traditional business practices and struggle with selling to them.  Choosing to match a customers’ old-fashioned demeanor helps relate with them because it aligns with how they are accustomed to doing business.

    A few things that worked for me. First, whenever possible, I choose to write things down with pen and paper.  This action resonates with customers who are slower to adopt technology. On top of that, following up with hard copies may better meet your customer’s expectations and fit into their decision making workflow.

    Along with taking written notes, I also make a point to overdress for the occasion, arrive early, be clean-shaven, and use titles when addressing people. Taking steps to be old-fashioned is conducive to doing business with tenured customers because it works against the prejudices the customer might have about millennials.

    “A smart salesperson listens to emotions not facts.”

    3. Understand Emerging Technology

    Today’s young professionals grew up in the exciting age of the digital revolution. This means that young salespeople are expected to be early adopters of new workplace technologies and have a high technological competency.  While it is true that young professionals may have a better intuition for the technology, it still takes a good deal of additional work to be informed.

    I quickly realized not only that I should pay special attention to the latest workplace tech, but that I needed to proactively learn it to meet expectations. As expected I became the default resource whenever there was a technical issue or question, and in an operating room setting, it was a particularly important role to hold.

    I used this responsibility to my advantage by taking it as an opportunity to be valuable. I spent additional time learning the nuances of the technology so that I was confident in my execution when people turned to me for answers. As a young salesperson it is important to understand others’ expectations of your technological competency because any opportunity to add value is a sales opportunity.

    4. Constant Judgment

    Young salespeople are very affected by this – there is an association between youth and immaturity in the workplace, and colleagues pay close attention to the behavior of their younger counterparts.  I concede that this connection between maturity and years might be fair, and as a result young professionals are given a different threshold for how much their behavior will be tolerated.

    I understand that there is a fine line between personal and professional settings after hours, but it is best practice for young professionals to be conservative to avoid negative judgment in casual settings. When I am around coworkers I always try to stay “turned on,” meaning that I take precautions to act appropriately. I limit my drinks, defer contentious conversational topics, and avoid workplace controversy and gossip. It is part of our reality that young professionals need to come to terms with.

    However, judgment exists differently in a professional setting. Instead of being evaluated on the appropriateness of your behavior, young professionals are judged on their competency and ability to contribute. The most effective way to be viewed as a positive contributor is by displaying confidence, both in the quality of your work and in the way you carry yourself.

    “Most people think “selling” is the same as “talking”. But the most effective salespeople know that listening is the most important part of their job.” – Roy Bartell

    5. Own Your Youth

    A young salesperson should definitely use their age to their advantage. Young professionals offer a unique perspective, skill-set, and way of operating that is invaluable to any business.  Leaning into those qualities is the best thing a young salesperson can do because it offers a truly unique value proposition.

    If employing this, it is first critical for a young salesperson to address their age and be transparent about their experience level before being exposed of it. This approach disarms customers by handling their first objection without them having to ask it, and conveys respect through humility. I have found customers are much more receptive to hearing my message after ground-rules have been set and this deference has been established.

    Also, something young professionals should leverage is their colleagues’ interest in their exciting young lifestyles. What works particularly well is using major life events to build rapport and relate to customers. Talking about buying a house, getting married, or having a child begins a conversation that becomes an opportunity to advance the relationship.

     

    Originally Written by :  Brian Ford
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    8 Bushido Principles of the Samurai to Help You Live a More Balanced Life

    From developing artistry around something as brutal as mortal combat to the pursuit of efficiency in everything and the sound philosophical principles that define a samurai’s life, along with the beauty of ancient Japanese culture woven throughout all of it, we’ve found unlimited inspiration from these incredible warriors.

    Admittedly, there isn’t much use for a sword-wielding warrior these days. However, the Way of the Warrior, the Samurai’s code of ethics referred to as Bushido, lives on as a useful set of principles to help you live a more balanced life.

    And, it just so happens, they’re principles we could use now more than ever.

    I look at the Samurai because they were the artists of their time. What I think struck me when I read Bushido is compassion. ‘If there’s no one there to help, go out and find someone to help.’ That hit me, because I try to lead my life like that.

    – Tom Cruise

    These are the eight principles of Bushido:

    1. Righteousness

    This one is sometimes referred to as justice, and it’s about striving to do the right thing. You can’t control the rest of the world, but you can seek to follow the way of righteousness in your own life.

    This is about more than just doing the right thing when dealing with others, though, it also has to do with maintaining integrity when nobody’s watching.

    2. Courage

    Samurai would have made excellent Gryffindor. It’s no surprise that a warrior must be courageous, but courage is about more than just the courage to face your own death in combat. To be truly courageous means to face your life as a whole with the confidence necessary to overcome your challenges and realize happiness.

    3. Compassion

    “With great power comes great responsibility.”

    You must seek opportunities to use your power for the greater good, understanding the pain of others and desiring to help in any way that you can.

    True compassion is understanding, so we must not only understand our own place, but also the desires and wishes of others and how our actions affect those people.

    4. Respect

    When one has power, they must also know when and how to use that power wisely.

    Power can easily corrupt and the ability of a Samurai to kill another human being with ease is a power that had to be wielded with great wisdom and respect. Not just for others, but for oneself, to avoid corrupting one’s soul.

    There are many forms of power in the world, and virtually all of them can be used to either help or hurt. One must live their life in a way that respects others, and learn to use their power to live most effectively.

    5. Truthfulness

    Truthfulness encompasses two different qualities: honesty and dependability.

    The word of a person has great value, but the value of those words lessens over time as each lie or failed promise builds.

    Seek to remain honest in how you speak so that when you speak, others know you’re not only telling the truth, but also that they can count on you following through.

    6. Honor

    Samurai treasured honor above perhaps all other qualities.

    As a samurai, your honor was everything and to be dishonored was worth more than death. In fact, for a samurai, dishonor often resulted in a samurai committing what was called harakiri, or ritual suicide with a katana.

    Clearly, the average person doesn’t live by such principles. However, honor is nevertheless critical to realizing your best self. Honor is a representation of who you are as a person. It is your word, your actions, and your very worth as a person all-encompassing reflected in others.

    7. Loyalty

    A samurai knows his place in the world. Closely aligned with truthfulness, those you care about and work with should know that they can count on you no matter what.

    This kind of fierce loyalty doesn’t just help others — it helps you create unbreakable bonds because it reflects and communicates how valuable they are to you.

    8. Self-control

    The final principle of the Bushido is about having the self-control to pursue and exemplify the entire code.

    The first seven principles encompass all the things that are important for the samurai to follow. However, just as important is an emphasis on following the principles themselves. As poetic as the principles sound, if you don’t actually follow through with them they’re absolutely useless.

     

    Originally Written by : Matt Valentine
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    25 Sayings Only Cat Lovers will Understand

    What can we say about Cats that hasn’t already been said on Tumblr, I Can Has Cheezburger, Lolcats or any other site responsible for the cat craze these last few years? For one, how about a fascinating little known fact about cats?

    Something interesting we came across when writing this post is that apparently, unlike dogs, cats treat us like they would other cats. Neat, right? Don’t believe us? check out this article from National Geographic that explains it.

    Basically, dogs know that we’re not dogs; they behave differently around us than other dogs. But cats, they behave similarly with humans as they would with other cats. They knead us, purr, rub up on us, and raise their tails to us like they would to their mothers. They just know we’re bigger and clumsier. And that’s probably pretty accurate. Whenever we do fall off things we tend not to land on our feet.

    So in response to our article on the greatest Dog quotes of all time, we thought we’d do another one on our other favorite furry friends. So grab your favorite feline and enjoy these 25 quotes that only cat lovers will understand.

    Cat Quotes: 25 Sayings Only Cat Lovers will Understand:

    On cats and dogs:

    1)  “If animals could speak, the dog would be a blundering outspoken fellow; but the cat would have the rare grace of never saying a word too much.” – Mark Twain

    Our thought: Cats would be very graceful indeed. Quite.

    2)  “If a dog jumps in your lap, it is because he is fond of you; but if a cat does the same thing, it is because your lap is warmer.” – Alfred North Whitehead

    Our thought: We take this as cats just knowing what they want and going for it. Or being selfish. Either way.

    3)   “Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea.” – Robert A. Heinlein

    Our thought: It’s true. Don’t fight it boys.

    On their intelligence:

    4)    “I have studied many philosophers and many cats. The wisdom of cats is infinitely superior.” – Hippolyte Taine

    Our thought: In our research we also learned that cats use straightforward learning. Philosophers should probably take note.

    5)      “Cats know how to obtain food without labor, shelter without confinement, and love without penalties” – W.L. George

    Our thought: Love this quote. Very smart these little guys. We could probably learn a thing or two about love from them.

    6)  “In nine lifetimes, you’ll never know as much about your cat as your cat knows about you.” – Michel de Montaigne

    Our thought: They are much better at observation than we are. Stop and take a look around every once and a while.

    On their stubbornness:

    7)  “Never try to out stubborn a cat.” – Robert A Heinlein

    Our thought: You won’t win. Period.

    8) “I would like to see anyone, prophet, king or God, convince a thousand cats to do the same thing at the same time.” – Neil Gaiman

    Our thought: We’d like to see that too. But our money’s on the cats.

    9) “Any cat who misses a mouse pretends it was aiming for the dead leaf.” – Charlotte Gray

    Our thought: Pretty sure they would be offended and deny everything if we pointed out their misses.

    10)   “If cats could talk, they wouldn’t.” – Nan Porter

    Our thought: Refer back to the Mark Twain quote. Classy as f**k.

    On being little gods:

    11)  “I believe cats to be spirits come to Earth. A cat, I am sure, could walk on a cloud without coming through.” – Jules Verne

    Our thought: I have yet to see evidence of the contrary.

    12)  “In ancient times cats were worshipped as gods; they have no forgotten this.” – Terry Pratchett

    Our thought: And they never will.

    13)   “How we behave towards cats here below determines our status in Heaven.” – Robert Heinlein

    Our thought: They will probably be our rulers some day, so treat them well. They don’t forget.

    On doing as they please:

    14)   “Cats can work out mathematically the exact place to sit that will cause the most inconvenience.” – Pam Brown

    Our thought: Usually the computer. While blogging. Or doing work of any kind.

    15)   “Cats seem to go on the principle that it never does any harm to ask for what you want.” – Joseph Wood Krutch

    Our thought: Not a bad principle. We might try it and see how far we get.

    16)   “A cat is there when you call her –if she doesn’t have something better to do.” – Bill Adler

    Our thought: She usually has something better to do.

    On being little sh**s sometimes:

    17)   “If cats looked like frogs we’d realize what nasty, cruel little bastards they are. Style. That’s what people remember.” –Terry Pratchett

    Our thought: Hilarious. But they’re not nasty… Well, maybe sometimes.

    On allergies:

    18)   “If you are allergic to a thing, it is best not to put that thing in your mouth, particularly if the thing is cats.” – Lemony Snicket Our thought: Good advice. Do not put a cat in ones mouth.

    On being honest:

    19)   “A cat has absolute emotional honesty: human beings, for one reason or another, may hide their feelings, but a cat does not.” – Ernest Hemingway

    Our thought: They are very honest creatures. It’s refreshing.

    20)   “A cat does not want all the world to love her. Only those she has chosen to love.” – Helen Thomson

    Our thought: A beautiful quote. We too only want those we love to love us.

    On being thinking they’re mysterious big cats:

    21)   “After dark all cats are leopards.” – Zuni Proverb

    Our thought: Cue the cat running viciously back and forth throughout the house at night.

    22)   “I wish I could write as mysterious as a cat.” – Edgar Allan Poe

    Our thought: We will never know why they do some of the things they do.

    And finally, on why we love them:

    23)   “There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats.” – Albert Schweitzer

    Our thought: As a physician and medical missionary to Africa, Mr. Schweitzer must have known what he was talking about.

    24)    “No man or women can be called friendless who has the companionship of a cat.” – James Lautner

    Our thought: This is in defense of all my ‘cat lady’ friends.

    25)    “Time spent with cats is never wasted.” – Sigmund Freud

    Our thought: It can’t be called procrastination either right?

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